@Sarahismyname,
Sarahismyname wrote:
Hi
So I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. I mentioned about maybe not using condoms ( I'm on the pill) but he said he would prefer to use them and wouldn't even discuss it. I just prefer sex without a condom. I'm his first sexual partner. What can I do? Am I being unreasonable? Help!!!!!
You aren't being unreasonable at all.
Most couples in long term relationships have unprotected sex. When you are in a
long term monogamous relationship most people realize that condoms are annoying and that they aren't worth it.
Sex is much better without a condom. That is why only 14% of steady relationships use condoms regularly. Yes, there is a risk of STD, but if you are in a monogamous relationship, most of us accept that risk. I do recommend you are open with your partner about risks, and it is a good idea to get tested for STDs if you have a sexual history.
I think Jespah is greatly overestimating the risk of pregnancy. If you use the pill according to the directions, it is 99% effective. Just wait a month every time you miss a pill (it isn't that difficult).
I have been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. Both of us a faithful. We use birth control. We never use a condom. Most people, if they are being honest, do the same.