New Job - when to walk away

It certainly IS a blessing! Way to go, daughter!

When I worked at the hospital, I used to attend Grand Rounds which were a series of lectures by different doctors on their research every Friday morning. One of them was on the common cold. Apparently there is something in the chicken bones that help greatly reduce the symptoms and speed recovery. I guess that's why our grandma's always made us chicken soup. There's something to that old wives' tale after all.

I think older remedies do work...the difference being they find something that works they don't question it or study it to death they see it works so they use it. More common sense.

More crap from this family - so she got her rapid covid test came back negative - my daughter let the mom know and in the mean time the dad called her - ranting and raving about how she had to get a strep test to confirm she does not give strep to the baby and ranting about how you have to be careful with a baby as you can pass things onto them blah blah...even including where she should go to get the strep test. And then he rants about how a busy weekend they have and so they need her.

So my daughter says to me - yeah of course I know about giving things to babies why the heck do you think I let them know I was sick before going over there. And on one hand you don't want her there because she is sick and then you want her there because you want to go play over the weekend?

Any way my daughter wanted to go to test for strep because her throat had gotten worse - cannot get an appointment any where - no urgent care she went to walk in and they had no appointments - which they only take walk ins? So I called our insurance company only to find you can go anywhere (not just in the network) for urgent care - found her an appointment about an hour later at one of the CVS minute clinic - so off she is.

But then the dad calls her - she didn't answer - so he texted her - saying he got Patriot tickets for Sunday and wanted to see if she watch the kids - now she is already scheduled for Friday and Saturday night and she looks at me and says what should I do - well she doesn't want to work all weekend (makes sense she is 22). I told her if she doesn't mind working Sunday simply tell him that you would be willing to switch Saturday night for Sunday night since you did have plans for Sunday but knowing that going to the game is a big deal - she could change her plans for Saturday. And then ask to come into work later on Monday as they would be obviously very late on Sunday (as the game is an evening game).

I told her simply negotiate it so it works best for you.

It's exhausting reading this stuff. She shouldn't have to put up with all this shite. Ranting, demanding, unappreciative. Sounds like a ****-show.

Not to mention she got the damn cold from the kids who in the past week have been coughing and sneezing all over her.

Well at least she got another day off - today since they so insisted she get a strep test.

This sounds so familiar. We have very wealthy Mexican families here who go through nannies like tissues. They treat everyone like a slave and personal servant 24/7 and can't believe if someone doesn't accept their terms. They do pay well, very well indeed, since they have enough of it, but there comes a time when money is not good enough anymore.
My neighbor's kid is in a situation just like your daughter is, but after 6 months of being treated like a slave, she's had enough and left them. These families won't change and just go on and take on another nanny.
Let's hope your daughter gets the other job and can leave them. I commend her for sticking it out and trying to be accommodating, but it shouldn't be at the expense of her being stressed to no end.

Guess what?

The mom is from Mexico.

Crazy, but I can believe it. At an advanced age, one of my great-uncles married into a wealthy Mexican family in Puebla, where they make the talavera (exquisitely painted pottery). They had their own talavera factory and store - mucho dinero. His wife was like that. They paid a Mexican woman $8 USD for 8 hours of work and she came in six days a week. Two old people don't make much mess so basically she cleaned on Tuesday what she had already cleaned on Monday. For $1/hr. That stunk of slavery to me.

She has an interview set up for Monday - she doesn't know her hours yet for Monday from the family but will tell them she has an appointment.

The dad though is born and raised here - he got his business from his dad - I did look them up as my daughter was potentially going to travel with them on vacations.

What's the job on Monday?

Its the small local cafe I mentioned earlier that she applied to. They serve upscale healthy breakfast and lunch items. The pay is the same and up ...20 and above per hour plus tips..the place is very busy with lots of regular customers that typically tio well even though it is just counter service. She knows two other young women that work there...we know them too and they seem to be very happy there...sounds like a good opportunity until she finishes her Grad degre.

I hope she gets the job! A lot more fun than what she's doing now.

So she had the interview and it went well. He said he would tell her later this week.

She also has another job that she works two nights a week it is just for 3 or 4 hours each night hosting at a local restaurant/sports bar. They make a good amount in tips from take out. And they just offered her Saturday night - she wanted to wait and see if this place gave her the job (as they close earlier) so she didn't know at the end of this interview.

So I asked if she wanted to give her notice any way - I told her she can get a job almost any where - so she decided to give her notice today whether she got this other job any way. And took that Saturday night (she should make quite a bit in tips).

Great news. How did the family respond to her notice? I'm so happy for her. No one needs that kind of stress and abuse!

Don't know yet - she is going to tell them end of day today - so I guess I will hear when she gets home.

I think once she does a big weight will be lifted.

So she gave her notice. She told the mom yesterday. So she is going to complete the week and if they need her the following week she would make herself available.

Today the dad talked to her - she was more worried about his reaction. But he was surprisingly nice. He said he was already interviewing others because he could tell she was going to quit. He gave her a pep talk about her future and her future career and said he would vouch for her at any job and would say anything like she was a supervisor or manager or anything. She said it was really strange.

she has not heard from the other job but was told to reach out to them today if she had not heard because the hiring manager was going to be traveling the past couple of days.

People are unpredictable, once the employee/employer relationship goes people can be themselves.

He probably appreciates how good a worker she was compared to others.

Had she been older and more experienced, he would have benefited from an exit interview from her explaining why she was resigning. I'm glad it turned out on a happy note.

Both good points - I told my daughter it is probably because he realizes his kids are such terrors.

Funny she got an email from indeed saying she did not get the job. She was shocked and told me. I thought it weird because he said he would notify her directly so since he is a texter - I told her to just send him a quick text about what she received it could be an error.

He send her a text - long story short - it was just an automated reply that indeed does if they don't get any responses.

So he never told her she got the job - but the other day asked if she could attend orientation. So she said I assume I got the job if I was invited to orientation --- she starts training on Monday and her last time with the monsters is Friday.