@StarbucksFreak,
If a woman wants you to give her money before intimacy occurs she probably regards it as a business transaction, not “good sex.”
Let’s face it, if you were that good at sex word would get around and you wouldn’t have to pay for it.
You seem quite happy paying for sex but like a lot of “johns” you’ve convinced yourself it’s something more than a prostitute client relationship.
That’s all this is, these women are not your friends, you are a customer, nothing else.
Get over your squeamishness about dealing with the reality of your situation, stop fanning about with amateur prozzies and get a professional.
I doubt very much that someone like you really can be friends with women. As far as you’re concerned they’re just potential sex partners.