Let me explain something. No, I have never just done everything for my wife. That's not my purpose in life. You never learn to do anything if someone is always doing things for you. Yes, I've done things for her in the past but again, I refuse to do everything. I shouldn't have to go to one of the gym staff and set up a training session for my 50 year old wife. Oh, did I clarify that for you . . . . she's 50. She is more than capable to walk up to the desk and say, "hey guys, can one of you come show me how to use a certain piece of equipment?" That's what "they" are there for.
My wife was raise by parents whose dad worshipped the ground their mom walks on. I love my wife but I'm not going to cut her food, and chew it up for so so she doesn't have to.
"I would probably ask my husband if he minded me turning the fan off since I'm cold"
Oh, that's what you would do but in your scenario to me I needed to tell her I'm an idiot and can you just spell it out for me? How is that fair to me? She's cold but I have to be a mind reader. Again, I don't mind helping her out but I'm not going to hold her land through life and do everything for her. And yes, I have looked her in her face on certain things and said, "you're a grown woman, figure it out." You think that went over well? How would you like it if your man told you "you're (whatever age), figure it out"? Be honest. Would you honestly walk away saying to yourself, "you know what, I am grown so I do need to figure this out" or would you give him holy hell because he made that comment to you?