@farmerman,
There are separate issues here.
1) We don't have a real way to measure the effectiveness of the mask or the risk of contracting the virus without the mask. Are people who wear masks when they go outside significantly less likely to contract the virus? I don't believe so (nor do I see any objective evidence that this is the case).
2) We don't have a good way to decide on a rational response to risk.
Last year (before the pandemic), you knew that hugging your grandchildren presented an increased risk to both you and to them. Most people found that this was an acceptable risk and hugged their grandchildren anyway.
Next year (hopefully), people will again feel that the risk of hugging their grandchildren is again acceptable. (I would hate to live in a world where people are always afraid to hug their grandchildren).
Saying
we won't accept any risk feels good in a crisis. But life is risk.
I am willing to follow the guidelines for social distancing while the crisis is going on. For the time being, I am not giving hugs to anyone I am not living with. But there is a rational balance between sensible precautions and overreaction.
I don't have a problem with anyone wearing a mask, especially if it helps their mental health. There may even be a health benefit. I don't know.
I am not going to be wearing one.