Dream Holiday Ruined by Flight from Hell

Im okay normally just stress causes it, think its irritable bowel when anxious it kicks off. I felt okay on holiday just noticed i was bit by insects,(dont know what i was bit by) felt fine literally before our flight then all of a sudden felt sick and passed out and couldnt stop shitting wouldnt wish what i went through on anyone. Didnt imagine i was capable of creating what i did.

To be honest im too embarrassed to even speak about it let alone see a doctor, whenever anyone asks me about it i just have to ignore them and get away. Might be best to go there and mention the faint but not mention the part about me crapping my pants

Doctors have heard it all before. There would be nothing you could tell them that would shock them in the slightest. Having said that isn't it worth a bit of embarrassment for you to have this checked out so it doesn't happen again?

Agreed 100%. There are doctors that specialize in IBS - so believe me they know and would if anything make you feel "normal" and better about yourself.

If you have a medical issue it is not your fault and although we are human and feel embarrassed quite honestly there is no reason for it.

Wouldn't it be better to feel slightly embarrassed with a doctor that is very familiar with this and knows many many people in the same situation - get it resolved and not have to worry like this?

You can't see a specialist in the UK without a referral from your GP, unless of course you're willing to spend money, and most of us aren't prepared, or can't afford, to do that.

I'm fairly certain OP is from the UK by their use of vernacular.

Either way - a doctor should be knowledgeable enough and dealt with enough patients that they would have seen, heard and experienced such things.

Ideally your GP would give you a referral - there are doctors that specialize in this area.

Bumped into two of the girls today (one of them was the one who cracked the nappy joke) she asked why i got upset the other day and took off.
I said it was uncalled for and asked why people who werent on the holiday and im getting asked about it and how these people know about it and potentially now people i work with could know about it.
She asked, 'Lucy i dont mean to keep talking about it but what everyone cant figure out is how?, i replied 'what do you mean how?, she said, 'how did you **** your knickers on the plane?', i said, 'well how do you think?', she replied, 'Well i know all poo came out of your bum but why? Surely if you had to go you could have dropped the kids off at the pool or in the airport before you went?, my other mate just put her head down think she was dying to laugh i said, 'you are talking like i had an option, i was unwell and couldnt hold it in' she said, 'Well you could have ran to the toilet did you do it for attention? So Daniel would feel sorry for you because everyone knows you like him' i explained i had no choice i blacked out and had violent diarrhoea while i was unconscious and she said 'Well it was unfair on all of us as the smell made everyone around you sick you could have at least got cleaned on the plane instead of sitting there in your own ****' i told her 'Okay I **** myself, it stunk i know it stunk because i was near ill with it yes im embarrassed but **** it it couldnt be helped' she then told me i was sick in the head and walked off. I told her not to speak to me i was pissed off but the other mate with her texted me to say sorry and said i can talk to her in her house tomorrow when Nat isnt there. Just dont know what to do.

I repeat - new friends. I am glad you stood up for yourself - but even knowing you passed out there was no concern of your wealth fare - new friends.

Either that or this story is untrue and you are pushing things (sorry if this is not the case but the story is getting a bit and there are people on here who would do this).

Most of my friends are okay theres one or two who i sort of entertain for the sake of my of my other friends i think its this that could be causing a rift i have these mates for many years and even as kids we all got on but lately especially after the last couple of weeks have gone cold. Ive always wanted to travel maybe if things dont work out this will be my excuse to do so

It is not a normal reaction to stress. Not rare, just not normal. Talk to your doctor, get a referral to a specialist.


If you can talk to friends about this -as you posted you did - you can talk to a doctor.

Honestly, it's a bit hard to sympathize with someone who'd rather fuss than go to their doctor. Trust me, your gut gets worse with age, not better - if you don't get medical support.

It sounds like you have a medically treatable condition. It's nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about, but it's not going to get any better if you continue to do nothing about it.

What's you aversion to seeing a medical practitioner?

Sorry all just ive been through a terrible ordeal and feel like im reliving it daily with no understanding.

Its just soooo embarrassing as well just sooner try and move on

Met up with a close friend tonight from our holiday(the same one who was with the other girl we bumped into the other day)we watched a movie and had a few drinks and chatted and she asked me 'How it happened'.
I explained to her that when i first boarded the plane it was the last thing i expected to happen, i felt no urge to poo but the minute we took off illness and a faint feeling hit me but bladder and bowels there was no warning signs or urges to go. I explained my fevers and explained i started seeing spots and feeling weak then had no idea what was going on just felt a loud crude wet farting splattering noise(had no idea it was me) and woke up with staff around me and ever since ive become an object of ridicule and lost all my dignity and self respect and would do anything to turn back the clock but cant because its happened and theres no going back people dont look at me or treat me the same way ive literally lost everything.
She was understanding and explained that no one asked on the plane that i was okay as they said i was in a world of my own and looked visibly uncomfortable and embarrassed(which a total understatement i relate to) and they all agreed they didnt know what to say to me.
I am mortified and think its going to take time and dont think i will ever truly live this down but now hopefully a step closer to understanding and moving on might try and go back to work next week dont really want to leave my work and start a new life but cant bear the idea of people knowing even letting a fart out in public even as a man can be socially embarrassing so you can imagine how bad my situation was

You need to gain a new perspective. Although you've experienced embarrassment, it's not the end of the world here. You're acting like a spoiled child instead of someone in charge of their own health issues. What you think is going to kill you, isn't. May I remind you there's a global pandemic illness happening. You can consult a doctor who can help but you'd rather whine on how tough the situation is.

It's not.

You can get better.

But that's not going to happen if you keep burying your head in embarrassment. Seek treatment for your issue and go on with your life. At least you owe that to yourself. Because it seems none of your friends will get through to you.

Quit whining. Go see a doctor.

She is NOT whining. She related the story of a very difficult situation which happened to her. She hasn't at any time here, asked us to feel sorry for her. She is trying to get a handle on the matter and move forward in life and restore her self confidence.

These sorts of things take time to recover from. But it does happen.

Try to be a decent person neptuneblue, not a loser like the ones who continue to their taunting of Lucyloop.

Encopresis ....... check it out on WebMD or ask your doctor. One of my nephews had a problem like that....but my brother left his wife when the child was about 7....I couldn't find out if the situation was ever diagnosed....My brother refused to talk about it and his ex-wife really didn't want to discuss it with me.....(I understand her feelings)...but ask your doctor...they will help...Good luck

Wow. That was....interestingly....condescending bullshit right there, pal.

I don't have to "try" to be a decent person, I AM a decent person. And like the others, have the OP's best interest in mind when offering advise to see a medical practitioner. OP has a consensus of the same opinion. Take the reasonable, sane advise, or not.

Ive read on this its usually a childs illness and i have no problem with constipation, im in fact the opposite...i get a poo pain then a 5 second warning and then Mr Hanky pops out saying 'Hi De Ho' meaning i have to dash to the nearest loo for a good clear out.

Think it was whatever bit me that caused me to empty the whole contents of my guts into my pants i wet myself as well but that was a minor setback compared to what came out of the other end. Never had that happen before closet was a girls holiday about 5 years back when we had a dodgy indian meal and i almost crapped myself in the back of a taxi on the way to the airport for our flight home, turtles head was popping out but thankfully i managed to hold it until we got to the airport, out of the cab and had to run with my hands on my arse all the way to the toilets where i made it....JUST!

Have felt okay since just my pride serverly dented and my whole reputation in ruins

Thank you Sturgis for your support x

Neptuneblue it hasnt been easy for me do you know what it is like to be the Butt of Everyones Jokes? Or being stuck thousands of feet in the air trapped with your own turds stuck to you? Not being able to interact with people because you know they are laughing at you?

Yes, I have had some moments of infamy, like the time in college I walked into a fire hydrant when I was too busy looking at a cute guy to pay attention where I was going. The large bolt on the side tore right through my jeans and caught my knee cap, breaking the skin and shattering the bone. Then another cute guy came along, saw blood on my pants, and gave me a lecture that menstruation is normal, it happens once a month and don't be embarrassed to go to a store for "lady supplies." As I sat on the ground, writhing in pain, bleeding like a stuffed pig, the guy got agitated and gave me another lecture about cramps. Then he left to let me "grow up" about "female issues" without even realizing what truly happened.

Yeah, that wasn't a conversation I wanted to have with my parents on how I broke my knee cap. But I did. We all have situations we're not so proud of and yes, life goes on.

You have a medical condition. It can be treated. You don't have to experience another fecal incident again. But it does require you to ask for help. You should have asked for help on the plane. Yet you suffered in silence and everyone knew. Even your friends tried to help but you were too stubborn to accept their help.

Even now as you're reaching out, you don't want help, you want us to commiserate with you. And you do have my compassion. It's just not in your best interest to ignore a medical condition, trying to wish it away. It's not going to go away on it's own. You need help. And that help needs to come from a doctor, not anonymous posters on an unknown forum.

So please, set up an appointment with a medical practitioner. Tell them. Ask for help. Just ask for help. Please.