I use to train sappers in explosives uses and mfr and doing demo of foundations and we were always being coached by the psyych ops people to keep eyes on the candidates who were having a sudden personality "shift" to exhuberance and kindness wishes to staff and to get back to the psychologists about such shifts .
This often meant there was a possibility that the soldier was on the brink of doing something (like commiting suicide).
I always had kicked myself for dumping much of that experience when about 12 years ago, an employee of mine blew his brains out on a weekend evening a day after hed called me and several other of my partners about how really happy he was to work with my company and the skills that weve provided . I missed the signs totally and am bothered by not having jumped in to help him. Maybe , had I had my head on correctly, hed still be alive.
I can see that parental intuition is still one of the tools we have with our kids when we try our asses off to keep em safe. I noticed that no one in your responses had used that word suicide but damn it Ill bet we were all thinking it.
talk about a sigh of relief, Ill bet you had a nice tall glass of something more powerful than root beer when you found out about it and the study program that this instructor had planned fro the kids.
I think Id have gone in , after all the semester grades were in and I was sure my kid wasnt gonna major in whatever he was pushing, Id have a nice hart to hart about what an asshole he was. We too had "rules of involvement" for my undergrad students.
Maybe Im way off track here and I could be considered a hovercraft parent, but I really dont care. Because when somebody is messing with the heads of my pack members , theyre messing with me too.