@blatham,
ok, thanks for your answer.
However, the complaints of women whose hair is touched doesn't seem to have anything to do with sex.
As far as your example with another guy, and you're saying it wasn't a sexual thing, but that it perhaps helps us understand the urge.....no, it doesn't help me at all. The urge to what?
As far as indicators of health/fertility, have you also touched other peoples hair? I'm assuming you're white blatham. Have you ever walked up to a white woman and touched her hair? Or a white guy? Not including someone you're romantically involved with.
The complaint, and I totally understand and agree with it, is that someone, even a stranger, walks up to you, and as if you are a thing, or belonging, they touch your personal body.
I'm not at all confused as to why a person would be angry if someone did this. I'm not familiar to having seen this happen at all, let alone with the frequency in which it's claimed to happen.
Thinking back, I'm sure I have pulled a string, or lint or piece of paper out of someones hair. But not before saying "You have a piece of string in your hair" and then, knowing they don't know where it is, pulling it out and showing them. Race/color didn't enter into it. That's like a common courtesy thing, like letting someone know they have spinach in their teeth, or that they need to do a booger check.
Anyone else ever done this? The hair thing.