@ehBeth,
The prom thing doesn't bother me - prom is huge so from Freshman year they think about who their date will be for junior and senior prom - there are "promposals" - she saw her older sister going through it so I don't think it is long term thing - just my daughter talking about it.
He is in his first year out of high school - he says he cannot afford to go to college yet but wants to go. I am not sure to be honest the details behind it. I think the age difference thing is the cultural part - I do not think it is unusual for this sort of age difference in their culture.
He is coming over tonight to ask my husband if he be her boyfriend. My daughter let us know. We talked about it and it is difficult to say no as others mentioned here will they sneak to see each other? So any way - I did tell my husband I do not think this is long term. Although I see some things and values that are similar - my daughter has more ambition. She sees (in her words) a "hot" more mature guy interested in her. He isn't silly and doesn't act dumb like boys in her grade. He is polite, kind and says very sweet things.
What she doesn't see yet - he is out working. She has school, homework, practice and babysitting and her friends.
We decided they can see each within certain parameters. He can come to the house - we have a room in the basement with a pool table/air hockey - where you can set up your speakers and listen to music. They can go out with other friends - she is not to go alone in a car with him.
That sort of thing. I won't be there because I will be at work/commuting home.