Yep!
If there is a kid and bio-people overlap, I think you only need to do one -- like, if his sisters came, and his sisters' caretakers came (I've actually lost track -- THEIR bio-dad and grandpa or something, right?), one card each to the girls (if they're old enough to open it/ register receipt) but not ANOTHER card to caretakers.
Whew.
This stuff's complicated.
Osso, my family never made us send thank you cards but most of the people who ever gave us gifts were so close to us that it never seemed necessary.
For nearly the last 30 years I have sent gifts to nieces and nephews and a lot of the time I never even know if they've arrived.
One relative even said that "I don't know if they got the gifts, they get so much stuff....."
I'm pretty fanatical about having Mo send them out. Sometimes it ends up very complicated: Should he have to send a thank you to bio-mom?
I think we will this time, but usually I don't.
I just didn't know about a gift given from a kid, in person....
But I really do want it to be a habit with Mo.
Mo draws "storm clouds". That's what he calls them. That's the only thing he is interested in drawing.
Bio-mom didn't bring the twins. I couldn't believe it. I asked why and it was something about thier dad's phone going dead before she could ask or some kind of nonsense.
But there is no overlap between bio-family and kids at the party.
It IS complicated.
And I admit, I'm feeling a bit pissy towards bio-mom today so sending her a "thank you" is really kind of a "f... you", if you get my drift.
Maybe I should rethink that......
Storm clouds? Rain on the garden. Of course you live in Oregon when rain is a given.
Bio mom could show the picture to Mary and convince herself that you couldn't help with her Loving Mother Scrapbook because you were all tied up with that other kid's party.
P.S.
I think not bringing the half-sisters was waaaay out of line--particularly if they had been told of the party.
Is Bio-Mom too big to spank?
Oh, that sucks about the twins.
Weird.
Anyway, if there's no overlap, makes it a bit easier. One card per household, one per kid if more than one kid per household.
I don't know if they were told about the party or not but Mo had invited them and he was expecting them. I had asked mOther and she said she was bringing them.
Mo hasn't asked about it since so maybe it's only a big deal to me.
The Loving Mother Scrapbook.
<snork>
<sob>
The whole thing is generational, isn't it? If people REALLY sat down and considered what they were teaching their kids....
We could start with my seriously hip sister and her seriously misfit son.....
And maybe move on to the bigger disfunction of Mo's family.....
I know I'm even sounding pissy in type tonight!
Boomer--
You're entitled to be Pissy--Mo's Bio-Mom is a threat to his well-being.
Don't forget to make a note that she didn't bring his sisters to his birthday party. Document maternal ineptitude.
I have sent thank you cards to 2 people for all of my life.They always get me a Christmas prezzy and they dont live locally so whn i was young mum and dad made sure I sent a thank you card.
Now Im older i make sure i send one.
Other cards ive got were for wedding prezzies and a thank you card for being someones bridesmaid.Ahhhhh.
I make greetings cards and would love to sell them but as stated Im wondering if they are an old tradition which people now replace with a text message..
I think a hand written.made card is more personal than a mass produced one or a text message.
