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Fri 25 Aug, 2017 11:09 am
So, this is the situation. For the next week some friends and I have been invited to a school friend's holiday home. Normally it would be great, who doesn't love a free holiday! But there's a problem: I'm gay and telling them is OUT OF QUESTION. And I know we're going to go clubbing and some of my friends (most of them, likely) are going to have sex or at least make out with random women, and I want to avoid it (especially because they lean too much towards the no-homo side of things). I mean, seems reasonable, right? Just I'd rather not straight up lie (e.g. "I have a girlfriend who lives in canada with big boobs and absolutely 0 penises) and I want to avoid the pressure of being pushed to do stuff. How should I do?
Combi wrote:I'm gay and telling them is OUT OF QUESTION.
These are "friends", you say? Don't go on this holiday. Invent an excuse. They are away shagging girls, you have fun cruising.
@Combi,
Don't drink with them. Be the designated driver or claim you're watching carbs or whatever. They'll drink. They won't notice.
@jespah,
jespah wrote:Don't drink with them.
I got the impression that wasn't what he was worried about.
@centrox,
I know he's not. But if they drink, they are going to be so busy with that, they won't notice. And if he stays sober, he won't accidentally spill the beans about his sexuality.
@jespah,
jespah wrote:But if they drink, they are going to be so busy with that, they won't notice. And if he stays sober, he won't accidentally spill the beans about his sexuality.
OK, good point. I'd rather not spend a holiday, which is supposed to be fun, with a bunch of people from whom I have to hide the truth about myself, and be on my guard. I'd be worried that they would get ideas about "fixing him up" with a girl.
@centrox,
Agreed; I'm just trying to work within his parameters.
Ideally, he would come out and tell anyone who didn't like it to **** off.
So you are being "pressured" to go clubbing and have random sex? (Never mind if it's heter or gay)
I' d drop out, too. Penis measuring is not a lot of guys idea of having fun. Don't feel you have to do ANYTHING at the clubs.
@Combi,
Whats the problem? Most of your friends know or suspect. They're your friends. Enjoy yourself and if you feel insecure sleep out if you hook up.
@centrox,
Yeah, that's not really it: I actually have a good time when they're around, my concerns are more about the nights out. But you made a fair point with them fixing me up, mostly because they might think I am just shy with girls.
@emmett grogan,
Eh, I don't think so. It's not that they despise gays, on the conrary if they just found out they might even try not to make a big deal out of it, but they don't like the idea on a gut level ad it would just **** things up
@Combi,
Like I said, if you want to be discreet, sleep away and have a good time.
@PUNKEY,
PUNKEY wrote:Penis measuring is not a lot of guys idea of having fun.
Don't knock it if you haven't tried it!
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