neil wrote:Other than nuclear devices and lightning, that hot is rarely possible on Earth's surface.
Natural plasmas (ones that last for long) aren't overly on the Earth, but my lab typically has 11 plasmas running every day (with several more that we rarely operate), and (of the 11) 7 of those are ICPs running in 'hot plasma' conditions, i.e. at about 10,000 K. A plasma screen television has an individual microplasma for each pixel (and has millions of pixels).
To the original question, the difference between gaseous water and liquid water is the intermolecular bonds. Each water molecule consists of 2 hydrogen atoms and one oxygen atom, but there are weaker bonds, called hydrogen bonds, binding the hydrogen atoms of one molecule to the oxygen atoms of the next. These bonds are weak enough that they are constantly breaking - which is why water doesn't maintain a shape well, but strong enough that they keep the water from scattering in all directions. Water gas is hot enough (that is, has enough energy) to break these bonds. Liquid water is hot enough to break them, but not to keep them broken. Solid water (ice) does not have enough energy to break these bonds to a significant degree, so it maintains its shape.
PS - "atomic bond" is the wrong term. An atomic bond is a bond between two atoms. The word peopel were lookign for, based on your descriptions, was nuclear bond.