@Skeleton ,
Skeleton wrote:
I never mentally grew up.
Sure, like you're just going to stay with the mental maturity of a kid the rest of your life.
You'll grow up when you have a strong enough reason. Like when you realize that everyone around you that is your age is acting like an adult, and you're still being a little kid. I'd imagine that will get embarrassing enough after awhile that you'll change.
From my experience and memories of 21 year old males, some are still acting like little boys, and others are men. Women prefer the men.
Skel, everyone around you is in exactly in the same boat. Everyone is working hard, and has little time for themselves. You're not unique.
Some of them cope with it by being losers who drink and make fools of themselves. Others play games and watch cartoons. Still others seek and find more fulfilling activities.
Sorry, but you can't tell me on a military base they don't have other forms of recreation available that are more physically and mentally beneficial.
Why not try something new. You may discover you like something other than video games.
You need to get comfortable dealing with people in general in a non-romantic way before rushing into romance.
Also, it's been suggested before you get some counseling. There's no shame in that. Most people need or get it at some time during their lives.