Advice

Early last year I started an affair with a married man I am also married. Before all this we use to be really good friends. To start with it was purely emotional and after 7 months it turned physical. His marriage had been bad for several years and I didn’t feel fulfilled by mine.

My husband isn’t always physical with me but he has been in the past. Anyway we fell in what felt like the most intense love. He left his wife last year and said he would wait for me as I was his dream and he didn’t care how long it took. He even asked me to marry him at one point. I always said that I wanted to end my marriage for my own reasons and not based on me and him and I needed a bit of space but he didn’t want to give me that space incase the feelings and love started to fade.

Anyway in the last few weeks he has ended the affair and two days later he his dating someone else as he says he needs to have a life and cant wait forever and if we carry on as we are we would both end up hating each other. I know we needed to end the affair as it was killing us both but now he says he cant be friends as he has told the girl he is dating about us and that wouldn’t be fair to her and he needs to move on. Out of everything it hurts that he doesn’t want to stay in any kind of touch we have been their for each other for the last 2 years and all of a sudden he has dropped me which makes me feel it was all just words and I was there till he picked himself up after his marriage breakdown. Should I really just accept that he will never be part of my life again even as just a friend and how can he move on so fast