Craven de Kere wrote:
Quinn, I won't engage in pedantics over whether or not it constitutes a personal attack. Your post isn't pulled and nothing will happen so I won't get into the letter of the 'law' when the 'law' won't come into play.
I never even dreamed that it would be considered such, but I can see now how you would take it as such, and if that be true then, the post should be pulled if you feel it to be such.
In addition, if my words continue to be of a personal attack on you then, well, you can only do what you have to Craven, and I understand that.
I may not agree with it but, I can understand it, and am trying my best.
Craven de Kere wrote:
I will, however, say that I have not made similar comments about you and really don't have anything of that ilk to say about you.
You see, thats where we differ. If you said I was over reacting or being unreasonable, I would not consider that a personal attack but, I probably would ask you why you thought so and hope to come to an understanding.
If we could.
I dont think that we can and I say, we agree to disagree.
Im good with that, no problem.
Dang it man-its your site, you run it however you want---thats a statement BTW not a slight against you.
Craven de Kere wrote:
Those specific comments did not offend me. But I do think you are bing underhanded with your reaction.
I dont see that, could you explain that to me further please?
Im an not an underhanded person so, I could take great offense to that but, instead I am going to say, I dont get you Craven, could you please let me know what you are saying?
Craven de Kere wrote:
I removed a signature. I apologized for angering Sugar and am met by these insults on both of your parts.
My problem is with your actions, how that was handled.
Its not meant to be insulting, its meant to be a discussion to have possible resolve. Although I dont believe there will be one.
Thats okay, Im good with that.
Craven de Kere wrote:
My point is that you are not affording me a courtesy that I have afforded you. I have not called you names. I have not called Sugar names. I honestly don't really have anything negative to say about either of you. I do, however, disagree with both of your reactions.
I have up that post afforded what I could while trying my best to hold my tongue and while holding my resolve to the best of my ability. I apologize if that isnt sufficient for you, its all Ive got.
I dont see how you are not being afforded a courtesy. This could also be an unable to agree stance, and Im okay with that as well.
Also, Im trying to see how you could construe someone talking outside of this forum as a personal attack on you that you should not have to deal with because you havent said anything about them.
You have done something that they have taken offense to, which usually makes people say things in the heat of the moment, in their own thoughts, etc etc.--if you dont want that kind of thing to bother you, dont read it or dont let it.
We disagree, that is fine. I have tried to see your point, and cannot.
Craven de Kere wrote:
I do not consider that to be a reasonable request nor do I think it's sourced in any concern for courtesy at all.
I suppose your idea of courtesy and my idea of courtesy will continue to be of different natures.
This is okay. All we can do is TRY to understand each other and our positions.
Craven de Kere wrote:
I suspect that nothing less than saying that Sugar was reasonable to equate link removal on a message board to the Holocaust is what you would consider appropriate. I suspect that any mention made of Sugar's multiple insults is objectionable to you.
I've disagreed with Sugar's criticisms and voiced them as publically, if in less vulgar fashion, that either yourself or Sugar.
It's my opinion that I'm making far more of an effort for friendliness than either yourself or Sugar have.
It is my opinion that you are over reacting to the word 'gestapo' in your statement regarding the Holocaust. I find this very peculiar, sad and well I cant even put it into words.
Have you never seen Sienfeld and/or heard of the SoupNazi? I suppose Seinfeld should be held responsible for their equating in the same regard? That is the context in which it was said, and it is very unfortunate that you make such a remark in such a manner.
I would not be looking for you to say Sugar was reasonable, at this point, even if she blaringly was reasonable in her actions, I dont believe you would admit that.
I dont think it would be objectionable to post Sugars email but, that would be hers and I would not post it for her.
You have voiced your critisisms, and we cannot agree on the fact of where you pull those critisisms from is irrelivant, its okay, Im okay with that as well.
You are grouping me above as if I hurled these objectionable insults at you myself, and I find that very rude. Sugar can own up to her own words as i can own up to my own. If you are upset with me for what I have said to you, that is fine, however, I dont believe it is in the same context and you would like to group it as if it was.
You know what my big thing is Craven, not you and Sugar and the little hissy fits the two of you are having over this, although as discussed, I dont agree with it all. Although, Sugar hasnt really said much as of late, it curious you just cant let it go. We agree to disagree and thats all there is to it. You did nothing wrong, Sugar was horrible. I wont agree but, I shall accept that is how you want this to come out in the end. Its okay, Im good with that as well.
I was hoping to find that there would be some way that if there was to be some kind of interference in some way with profiles, sig lines and the like that rather than simply putting it in TOS, if a change is made that perhaps someone on staff could make sure the person so affected would be properly contacted as to such an item. Especially perhaps those people who have been here for a great deal of time and perhaps do not go back in and read TOS because you know, we read that previously, didnt know it changed all that often.
The greatest thing to come of this that I hoped for, I can see will never come because you have become too interested on how you have been personally wounded to see how your actions can effect others.
You have plenty of excuses, no time, rudeness, spammers, great deal of work, etc etc etc but, you cant come to something that makes more sense than how you handled this particular situation. But, heres another excuse, you're quitting because of all of this type of thing so, it doesnt really matter. BTW-excuse is an aweful way to put it, yes, however its not meant to be discriminatory, slightful or negative in anyway, its like a statement of my own opinion that I can already hear you quoting as being the worst thing anyone has every said to you, and I just cant think of another word to help aid your pain in that horrid opinion of mine that Im publically throwing out there for all to see and cause you harm.
And what bears saying can bear repeating:
Dang it man-its your site, you run it however you want---thats a statement not a slight against you again as well.