My crazy neighbor is at it again

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I arrive home. I am unloading my car and see my husband talking to my crazy neighbor. All I can think is why the h*ll is he talking to her. So I walk up - of course her dog is unleashed. When the dog sees me, he gets up wags his tail and comes toward me. She grabs his leash then.

She says my name - I look at my husband baffled and say - why are you talking with her? I say - I have nothing to say to her after she brings you to court twice! He mumbles, I 'm trying to work things out. I just ignore her and walk in the house.

He comes in and tells me what happened. The kids were studying/homework one in the kitchen/the other in the dining room (both of which are below her). My older daughter comes into our bedroom where my husband is working (below other neighbor) - she says that the neighbor is making alot of noise banging on the floor and she can't do homework. Husband goes out to livingroom and sees my younger daughter has finished her work and is playing with the dog - the doorbell rings.

Neighbor is yelling out him banging on the ceiling. OK - hubby was in bedroom below another unit. He tries to explain. So my younger daughter said she was throwing the dog's toy and it hit the wall.

Later on - I can hear her on her phone outside - I bring my dog out for his evening walk and there is her dog unleashed laying in front of our door. Against my better judgement - I ask her to please leash her dog and she begins to berate me telling me to mind my own business which I say it is my business as her dog is on my property.

There is more - including I believe I heard her call the police and talk to them last night....what the f----?

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@Linkat,

If you can start to document everything you do, including taking pictures, I would recommend doing that.

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@edgarblythe,

I sent another email to the management company and the board about the unleashed dog.

My husband will go to the police station over the next few days as the police need to keep a log of whenever they get a call. If she did call the police and I could hear her talking and another muffled deeper voice. And heard a door slam when some one left. Obviously he didn't warrant that it would require a visit to our door.

She is also talking to other neighbors - or was immediately after she spoke with my husband. Almost like she is gossiping about us.

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jesus christ.

but that is a good point. have a disposable camera? Smile

keep it in your purse. snap a photo every time you see that dog unleashed.

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@Linkat,

Instead of fighting with your neighbors and calling the police, why don't you contact the Conflict Resolution organization in the city in which you live?

I was one among a group of 8 people in the 1970s who created and designed the concept of conflict resolution in the San Francisco area. We trained hundreds of people to facilitate them in their areas including training staff people of the state, county and city to handle conflicts connected with their jobs and the public. We even handled schools and prisons.

The following is information about the services if you are not familiar with them. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conflict_resolution

BBB

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@BumbleBeeBoogie,

Thanks - never heard of them.

I don't want to fight - I just don't want any contact with her. Including carry my dog because of not wanting him to be peed on again. When I mentioned it to her she said, Oh my dog didn't mean it. What? He walked over and raised his leg right over my dog.

She basically does not understand or perhaps care about others. When my husband mentioned how she bangs on floor and continuously "drops things" that it is very loud (her soon to be former husband had once been in our place and agreed how much when you walk with shoes and drop things it echoes) - but yet wants perfect quiet from us.

My husband thought he over heard her mentioning filing something about assaulting. Not sure if it was something else - or what but those are the sorts of things that concern me. Obviously she would need proof for anything to actually happen, but can she claim something and lie?

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@BumbleBeeBoogie,

And I have not to date, once called the police, we originally tried to work with them directly and had some level of success when her husband was living there. Now, I have been dealing with the condo association, board of trustees and mostly avoidance.

But it really isn't fair that I change my lifestyle so I do not have deal with her. But will try to continue and hope we sell our place. That way she can be crazy with some one else.

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@shewolfnm,

I'd keep a dispo camera in my pocket.

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@ossobuco,

Phone works too.

One thing she asked my husband was - who are you friends with here? And the fool answered her - I said don't you think she is trying to find out who you are friends with and then go after everyone else to try to get them on "her side." Not that I particulary care.

She also said we use our children as spies to watch for when she doesn't have her dog leashed. She also complained that we do not allow our children to talk with her. Duh - I don't want them to have to deal with a crazy person.

Just some tidbits so you understand her insanity.

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@Linkat,

Sounds like a multistory apartment building, which sort of rules out the NNS option...

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@Linkat,

I remain wary that this broad can mess up your lives, including re your needing
real estate disclosure.
I agree with avoiding conversation, but also with documenting best as you can sans her noticing.

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@ossobuco,

Off topic, my computer is doing its once every eight months thing, having the cursor run wild. If one of my posts shows up with a giant white space, that's what's going on. May have to shut it off for a while.

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@gungasnake,

It is sort of weird the setup - there are 100 units in total - 10 separate buildings or so - with 10 or so units within each building. Each unit has their own entrance. But they are all built differently - there are a couple built on a slight hill, like ours. So when you walk in our unit - you actually have a foyer and then walk down the stairs - in the back you walk out into a yard area with a patio (actually quite nice as it is a bit private back there). Her unit opens on the same level so her back is actually a deck over our kitchen and hers has an additional upstairs.

Some are smaller in size/some are larger. Ours is quite large for one level of living with over 1700 square feet - why we expand below two units.

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@ossobuco,

Yes - I am making notes here and there to re-count last night.

I will have hubby fill in his/her conversation.

She does seem to not remember things correctly either - as she claimed I've never rang her doorbell (which I think she meant to complain about noise) - which is completely false as one evening about 11pm - she came with her two grown daughters and they were literary running around the livingroom area with the big dog. I told my husband give them 15 minutes to settle in - after 15 minutes, they continued to rough- house.

I went and rang the bell to see the three of them and the dog running around and horsing around - and asked them if they could possibly not be running and jumping after 11pm at night. She looked at me as if I had three heads - well we just came in? I re-emphasized the time of night.

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@ossobuco,

Broad - I like that reference to her.

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@Linkat,

I'm not always pc.

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@ossobuco,

It just fits -

Oh and shortly before I arrive (again her claim that her dog is terrified) - she said she Charlie is terrified of you - he tail is down and not wagging....ummm do you know anything about dogs - his tail wasn't between his legs, it was normal down - he was just standing there content---if I dog is terrified there tail would be between his legs and he would cower down and probably go near her. The dog was just standing there a distance away from her- I know because I just drove up and saw him.

And when I walked out of my car, he perked up and starting wagging his tail - didn't seem very scared to me.

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@Linkat,

I'd check on real estate sites - maybe not your own agent right away, re stuff that needs to be disclosed. The lighter weight a problem Wacky Broad is, the less likely a need to disclose - but I've not worked in real estate, much less real estate law. It does seem her vendetta is re you (two, well, four and a dog) personally, but to the extent she is a wacky bat, maybe that wackiness matters as a negative. Not to scare you as I could be and probably am way off base, but I'd look into it since it might affect how you describe her.

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@ossobuco,

The only thing we need to disclose as far as a neighbor is what is asked - which is info we have provided so far - set of empty nesters on either side.

Now if they were to ask directly about noise - not so sure how to reply to that. I would never lie about anything. And whether we think she is nutjob any way is our opinion.

You do need to disclosure certain items you are aware of - but these are more concrete things - like leaking issues/condo fee increases/etc.

But I'll take a few minutes to check - we did have a disclosure item we signed - there is nothing to check regarding "wacky nut job neighbor".

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@Linkat,

Like I noted, NNS and NTS are definitely out....

This might help:

http://www.amazon.com/George-Hayduke/e/B001IYTP9E

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