Am I ugly?

Relax and smile. Your features are not ugly. I think it is poor body language or something of the sort that puts the guys off.

You are not ugly.

it is not always about looks.
No, you are not an ugly woman, but you can not rely on your looks alone. You appear...in that photo.. to be THINKING.. 'dont look at me'... and almost expecting people to make fun of you.

Since you project that? people have a hard time seeing through it.

Find something you enjoy doing.. lets say dancing for example.. When you are doing something that you enjoy, you become happy and it shows. When you feel happy, your body language projects that and people LOVE it.

Dont worry too much about looks being perfect, you wil remove any and all possibility of dating if you do because there is ALWAYS someone out there who is prettier, skinnier, taller, shorter..etc. Always. So dont give that any thought.

Just spend time FEELING and BEING happy. That makes people feel comfortable, not the projection that you are not worthy.
It is a hard shift in thinking, but well worth it.

would you consider dating a sexually repressed black christian who spends his entire life on the internet researching a comic book he'll never write

cause if you do, you might want to PM JGoldman10

Honey you're not ugly.

I think all women are beautiful and you are too. And I don't even like girls.

U do not look ugly.
U look normal & average.

I look a lot worse.

Totally agree. Attitude trumps looks. You need to learn to work what you've got instead of worrying about what you don't.

Actually, you're pretty. However, a negative attitude, insecurity, selfishness (not you), arrogance (again, not you) and things like that will make even a 10 out of 10 seem like a minus. It's all about attitude, as others have said. So, find something (or preferably, several somethings) to like about yourself and enjoy your life!

I agree, too.

A few years ago, I attended a speaker's meeting of a political organization.

Altho I have always considered myself to be bad looking,
I gotta say: that speaker was WORSE looking in the face.

I have no idea what must have happened to him
in earlier years, but his face was not normal,
but he was ENTHUSIASTIC and well informed concerning
his area of expertise. Strangely, he even had a beautiful wife
with him, and a daughter, who had not inherited whatever bad luck
had befallen his face. This guy was very successful, professionally,
and he was eagerly received. His enthusiasm was as tho he had a normal appearance.
He just forgot about his looks and he made the most of what he had to offer:
his knowledge and his advice to the audience.

I also have done a lot of public speaking.
When I do, I am always concerned with the subject matter
of my presentation, not with my personal appearance;
and my attention has been OUTWARD DIRECTED.

Maybe it will help u if u concentrate your attention outward
and do not be self-conscious.





David

Someone once said that u have to hunt
where the ducks are.
A tactic that u can use
is to identify places where your targets go
and let them know that u favor some of
the things that THAY like.

For instance, in my case,
a girl sent me a letter letting me know
that she was interested in guns
and that she has a gun collection.





David

Umm...sounds mysteriously similar to the game theory strategy as espoused by...Russell Crowe's character John Nash in A Beautiful Mind.

1. You're attractive. Yes, losing some weight will benefit your health but don't try to lose weight JUST so you can find a romantic partner. That can be a secondary benefit. The main purpose whould be to improve your overall health and self confidence.
2. your glasses don't block your eyes, which are expressive so there's no need to consider getting contacts.
3. work on making your self-image more positive. Self confidence is the most attractive feature of them all. That and sharing your smile goes a long way to finding new friends and eventual romantic partners.

As compared to, say, Gary Buscemi ?

I thought you were going to say Gary Busey...

I don't think you're ugly at all.

Having Googled his picture: maybe about the same quality; maybe worse.
Its hard to judge; like judging art.

I saw that movie, but I don 't remember what his theory was.

You certainly are cute! You just look sad and unhappy and you probably send out vibes that you are insecure and not approachable.

As others said already, your attitude is more important than your looks and
you should work on it first. Join a group on a topic you're interested in - either reading, dancing, sports, etc. and you'll meet people in no time.

Don't make it your mission to get a relationship, just seek out friends and
enjoy yourself. Everything else will fall in place at a natural pace thereafter,
and when you least expect it, you'll meet someone special.

Can't see the photo, but I guess you need to change your outlook and mindset on who you are. And remember that no matter how beautiful you are if you don't have enough confidence of who you are as a person, you can't be beautiful, eh. Being beautiful must be in the attitude not just in the looks per se.