@Zetherin,
Zetherin;171089 wrote:Writing out what you think you mean with simpler language helps you clarify your thoughts. Start with simpler language, and then you will begin to see where you are going (if anywhere).
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But you don't have to tolerate that. You act as if you have no choice but to write out your thoughts in a vague, obscure manner. Search for the straightforward words you think best convey the thought. Write them out. You don't even have to press "reply". Just leave the words in the text box and look at them for a few minutes. Ask yourself, "Does this make sense?" and "Could I convey this thought in a more precise or clear manner?".
You may be too infuriated right now to do so appropriately, but I'll hope to hear from you by tomorrow. And I will be here when you want to discuss something, even though you may hate me.
I can see you're making a sincere effort, and that already mollifies me. So let me try to explain in plain language,
not what I was initially trying to discuss, but why I no longer wish to discuss that particular matter in this particular thread.
If everyone had simply said - as everyone except you (and in a different way Reconstructo)
did say - "No, I'm sorry, I just don't see what you're getting at. It looks like nonsense to me, or else it's just wrong. Are you quite sure you're feeling all right?", I'd have replied, "Oh dear, that's a real pity! For a few moments there, I thought I'd managed to put a few of my vague intuitions together, just about well enough to try to have a conversation about them,
at last - but apparently not yet. But don't worry, I'm feeling fine." And that would have been the end of that.
Even better, of course, if at least one person
had known what I was getting at, and had thoughts of their own to offer! Because then the conversation could have continued.
But because no-one knew what I was on about, where could any energy come from for continuing the conversation? The initial attempt at communication had failed. I could perhaps regroup, and make another attempt - at another time, in another thread - but why prolong the death agonies of this one? There was simply no basis on which to continue. Better to make a fresh start.
If I'd managed to get
something across, I could perhaps have built on that, used it to 'bootstrap'. But there was nothing. End of thread. (If only!)
I expect that even this explanation is not yet clear enough. But I
am willing to go on with this post-mortem, this thread about a dead thread.
You see, it doesn't just depend on me. It depends on who I'm talking to. I simply don't want to talk about this to people who have no idea what even my first fumbling attempt meant, because that means that either (i) they have no intuitions similar to mine on this subject, or (ii) I am still not nearly as ready as I thought I was to even
begin to try to talk about them.
If I
could improve on my first, fumbling attempt, that first fumbling attempt would not have been such a
complete failure.
Its obscurity was not a linguistic accident. I can be very clear and precise when I know what I am trying to say. But I wrote this article (#1 of this thread) in the same way as I write other articles. If I knew what I was trying to say this time, in the same way that I usually know what I am trying to say, it would have come out in such a way that it could be understood (even if I didn't start off the writing process knowing how it was going to come out).
And it doesn't matter where the 'blame' lies, whether it's (i) or (ii); it's the simple absence of a sympathetic listening ear that matters, not the reason for that absence.
Consider my OP as a preliminary sounding. If there's no response, I don't send out any further signals, because there's no-one there. Later, there may be someone, perhaps because I have improved my echo-sounding equipment, or I've recharged my batteries, or I'm in a different place.
Or, it's like knocking on a door. No response? Then there's no-one home. So there's no point in knocking on the door again. I know I knocked loud enough. Or at least I knocked as hard as I can. Either way, no point in knocking again - they can't
all be on the lavatory, in the bath, asleep, on the telephone, or making love! Try again later, or try another door.
This is torture. :disappointed:
And I suppose it's still not clear ...