hostility and internet chat

Reply Thu 3 Sep, 2009 09:24 pm
The people who act like that on the internet are too wimpy to say such things in real life. Frankly, they're the worst kind of people, and unfortunately, misery loves company. Everyone deserves love, but unfortunately some people's love is the love of hate.
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Reply Sat 5 Sep, 2009 11:10 am
Aedes;87941 wrote:
Honestly, we shouldn't need rules. But amazingly the rules aren't usually sufficient.

Oh, what could have been...
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Reply Tue 17 Nov, 2009 05:53 pm
OctoberMist;32176 wrote:

Online communication has always been this way, since even before the Net existed. Back in the old BBS days, people were actually far, far nastier than they are today. Not even IRC can touch the kind of stuff we used to say back then...

I think this happens for several reasons:

A) Objectification through Anonymity - Since people are largely anonymous on the Net, it is easy to objectify them as merely a screen name / avatar / etc. People become desensitized to the inherent humanity of the person they are dealing with.

B) Good Old-Fashioned Dysfunctionaltity - There are simply a lot of emotionally dysfunctional people in the world. They have difficulty expressing and indentifying their own emotions. When they have an emotional reaction to something they do not understand, or become frustated, their first instinct is to lash out in a rage.

C) Lack of Patience - Let's face: we live in an instant-gratification society. The same applies to communication. On the Net, when people have a encounter that does not suit them in the moment, they often lack the patience to try to work through the problem. Instead, it is far easier to simply write the other person off as a "jerk" and treat them accordingly.

I agree with your observations entirely but would add a related topic. Have you noticed how many threads become similar to a "collective monologue" -- that well-known phenomenon when a group of little kids get together and each one waits his turn to tell his story, but no one is actually listening or responding to anyone else?

Reply Tue 17 Nov, 2009 08:41 pm
Indeed Melon, The Internet, Soap Box for the world
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Reply Tue 17 Nov, 2009 10:57 pm
I actually think I'm nicer online than in person. If I'm having a discussion I generally don't pull any punches which most might find disrespectful but to be honest I think I give people far more respect than the average. Not liking someone because of how they think or appear is just ignorant to me and I will let a person know when I think they are being ignorant, that's the only difference.
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Reply Sat 28 Nov, 2009 09:30 pm
backworldman;27550 wrote:
it seems to me that people chatting on the internet are far more impolite than people in real life.

I've noticed that many a time...


i wonder why? is it simply because they can't be slapt in face?

That has something to do with it...

The anonymity of the internet allows many people to say things that they would never say in a face-to-face situation.

There are some positives to this: many people are actually (and often for the first time) expressing resentments that they've long kept hidden. This is good for them as long as they aren't consumed by it.

Unfortunately, many people are.

It's also bad in the sense that many people, who find instant empowerment in a anonymous internet, often tend to go off the deep end.


or are they playing out the bad side of a underdog personality they display in real life? what are yor thoughts?

I think the world is a very screwed-up place and that there are a LOT of people who are suffering with unacknowledged traumas. They don't acknowledge, understand, or identify with their own traumas so they take the emotional force (anger, pain, hate, sadness) and inflict it on others as a primitive form of catharsis.

In Western society, people are more and more reluctant to speak about their defects of character for fear that it will reflect badly on them - so they take out these repressed feelings onlline: secure in their anonymity.

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