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last week we had a guest, when she came in the front door I was sitting on the sofa with the coffee table in front of me. On the table was a bowl holding a dozen roses. Our guest exclaimed "OMG Dys with a bowl of flowers, how weird." the next day Lady Diane's son phoned from connecticut and Lady said something about me being home and sitting behind the bowl or roses, her son (age 37) cracked up and said he really needed a photo of Dys beside a bowl of roses as if that was a nearly impossible image for him to comprehend.
I have lived nearly my entire adult life single and have always kept fresh cut flowers in my home, bought from the market in the winter or cut from the garden in the summer.
I find it exceedingly that people (any people) find this disconcerting. also I wonder is it me "the dys" or any man that is not expected to have flowers in the house?

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@dyslexia,

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I find it exceedingly that people (any people) find this disconcerting. also I wonder is it me "the dys" or any man that is not expected to have flowers in the house?

I find it a rather odd attitude, too, dys.

You love gardening & have posted some great shots of your garden here. Including gorgeous roses.

So I figured you like flowers. And why shouldn't you?

Are men supposed to only like tools & rough n ready sorts of things then? Wink

I've often given men in my life gifts of flowers in the past & they were always appreciated. Just as much as I appreciated it when they gave me flowers.

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I don't know if you or if it's men in general. I guess people just don't see men with flowers in the house very often (unless a woman puts the flowers there). Maybe it's the fact that it doesn't often happen that makes it seem weird....?

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Interesting. Do you think the same bias is held toward floral gardeners? I doubt it.
I think it's charming. I buy flowers (when I can afford 'em) cause I like to have a bit of life/colour around the place.

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@dyslexia,

are they sitting next to the rifle?

mebbe that was the problem...

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@dyslexia,

Nothing wrong with men having and liking flowers and nothing wrong with men wearing pink. REAL men wear pink.

With my birthday falling on Valentine's Day, I often got roses at the office from my wife. The girl's were envious and I could care less what the men thought.

This being said, I imagine that those who questioned it were unable to understand why a rugged cowboy would have flowers.

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@dyslexia,

I think it's particular to the roses, dys. I don't think it would have been nearly as noteworthy had it been... geraniums, or some other flower not associated with romance.

HA! I think I'd better stop there before I have to try to explain why dys and romantic symbolism is noteworthy.

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@Intrepid,

Which reminds me, I gave you some virtual roses for your St Valentine's birthday, Intrepid.

And you didn't complain at all. Took it very well, I thought. Smile

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@dyslexia,

I know your garden history, no disconcertion. But, further, many of the men I've known have enjoyed flowers. Is there some assumption that men have no sense of beauty? delicacy? ephemerality?

I suppose some don't. I suppose some women don't either.

But, reading littlek's post, I don't know if there are gender diffs on this. Let's have a study, and where will we get funding?

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@Rockhead,

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are they sitting next to the rifle?

mebbe that was the problem...

good point rock, just too large a contradiction to bridge.

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@dyslexia,

mixed messages are a bitch...

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@dyslexia,

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you are the anthesis of posy ikebana

push the metal to the petal

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I have been known to gather wildflowers for my wife. Just stop near a field and gather a nice bunch. They don't last so well as garden flowers, but they are mighty neat while they last.

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@dyslexia,

I grow lots of flowers. inside and out.

don't often cut them, but if I had a lady guest I might...

(i keep the gun hid, though)

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@Rockhead,

don't for that nice bunch I sent you... they were awfully pretty!

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@Seed,

ohhh crap.

I thought that box said speed..... Shocked

(be right back) Embarrassed

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I can't keep fresh flowers in the house because roland and otis eat them, then vomit them up all over.

I'm just sayin'

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@chai2,

all kinds of flowers?

even petunias?

i'm just sayin'*

*(mebbe it is their way of telling you that your taste in flowers is somehow lacking...)

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@msolga,

I guess I am concerned re my image (mostly my fault)apear cranky" I suppose I am but all our tiff have been re Lady Di's meds which she avoids and my raisedsd voice. yes I yell "take ypur mds' which is ignorged and degnerades into "don't tell me what to do"

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@dyslexia,

slip 'em in her tea...

(ain't you ever watched Agatha Christie?)

and quit yelling. it won't work with the cats, either.

hugs.

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