Ladies, would you ever use the services of a prostitute?

I wouldn't no. Lots of reasons why not.

But I get what you are saying , Chai (methinks). I'm not the type though that has ever bothered with putting on the pretenses if I wanted to be with a man (even just for some fun sex).

I do see plenty of friends, women in general, feeling this need to "fancy up" the simple fact that they just want a ****. Sorry if that's crude, but us women are as likely as men to want that sometimes. But feel more often like we have to make it more than it is.

It's something I like about myself actually, and my bf seems to appreciate. I can be a woman and have some feminine traits, but I can't remember the last time I felt ashamed to go for what I want when it comes to intimacy.

I think some women take pride in saying "I need something more, sex can't be just sex"...

I understand wanting connection and more, that's what I prefer too, but all the hang ups about sex and what is acceptable sometimes shows up in some ridiculously hyprocritical ways (example: woman who talks about how all men are dogs only after sex, yet she's hitting the clubs to pick up a guy for ego strokes and sex while seriously saying "I can't be turned on by a man without something deeper". )

Right, but in that situation it's a reciprocal agreement - the guy who picks you up is looking to get laid too, so neither of the parties is putting themselves in the situation of being the needy one...

I wouldn't really be adverse to going to a prostitute if I could satisfy these criteria:
1) he'd have to be able to show me in one way or another that he was clean/disease free. Do prostitutes carry around clean health certificates - you know like when you go to a restaurant - you can see how many stars they've received for cleanliness and safe practices?

And I know that you could go to a club or even go to church and pick up someone with a disease, but I think you're running a little bit higher risk with a prostitute.

2) He would have to be attractive to me and that's because if he has no admitted desire for me (which is a major part of the appeal and aphrodisiac when you have sex with someone - that that person desires you) I'd have to compensate by having HUGE and MAJOR desire for him- enough so that it caused me to forget that this guy probably didn't want me and couldn't care less about me but needed my money.

I think my problem would be that if I liked what he did - I'd probably start liking him and what a mess that would be - in love with a prostitute...

But yeah - those would be issues for me - so for the moment at least - I don't think I'm emotionally able to use the services of a prostitute appropriately.