@CalamityJane,
CalamityJane wrote:
I have never had the need to pay for sex.
Well, neither have I, but that's beside the point.
btw diest...poor choice of words on my part, I was simply trying to express the balancing of my yin and yang over the years. sorry
I'm not attempting to get anyone (female) to say they would hire a prostitute, but I do have a serious question, related to a prior post....If you could please give your thoughts/opinions
I'm sure we have all at least known, or perhaps been someone who has gone out partying with the clear (but unstated) intention of hooking up with a guy, pretty much for sex.
please don't say you've never known someone who hasn't done this.
However, it's at least more socially acceptable to get all dressed up, go to a (probably) noisy club, with or without girlfriends, with the intention of "going out dancing"
You may like dancing, you may like clubs, but at the end of the day, your intention is to get laid. I'll say the following in capitals...
I AM NOT SAYING THAT EVERY WOMAN WHO GOES OUT TO CLUBS FOR A NIGHT OF DANCING IS LOOKING TO GET LAID. IN FACT THE VAST MAJORITY ARE NOT.
ok?
The lady might or might not get down to the sex part while sober, but after a few drinks, not drunk, just loosened up....sure, why not?
Is not the drinks, not to the point of being out of control, unable to make decisions, a substitute for the "something more than just sex", the "I can't get turned on that quickly"?
Maybe the drinks produce the simulation of "there's a connections here, so that makes it ok to have sex with him, just this one time, never to see him again" you can even fantasize you will see him again, if you want.
What if just the excitement of being out on the town, dressed up, dancing, produces the same faux relationship?
I think we are all intelligent enough to realize that, for instance, going out clubbing, in the environment of intoxicants, flashing lights, loud dance music, is probably not going to lead to meeting Mr. Right and ending in a long term relationship.
Where does one draw the line as to how long the relationship has to be, to deem it socially acceptable, in your eyes, to having sex upon a first meeting?
Would it be ok if it ending in marriage and 2 kids?
If you ended up going out for 6 months? one month? A week?
Just as it's been noted on another thread, we all pay for sex, either by being in a relationship, which takes work, paying a prostitute, or somewhere in between.
Getting down to the end result, what's the difference between a woman going through her fancy going out clothes, jewelry and makeup, putting on hundreds, if not thousands of dollars worth of clothes, shoes, jewelry, makeup, sexy underwear, perfume in order to get a one night stand, and paying someone a few hundred dollars to have sex?
Does that woman only "feel" like having sex after a few hours of knowing someone because she's all gussied up, are relaxed from a couple of drinks, inducing a faux relationship with someone they just met?
You may not see that as the optimum situation, I certainly don't, but we've all either done it, had friends that did (do) it, or have seen it happen. Haven't we rationalized it by saying "Well, she's an adult, she knows what she's doing" while going off with a man who might be really bad news.
It's just indirectly paying for the sex. Give the money to the department store for everything you need to go out, or give it to the guy directly.
You can still have some drinks to loosen up, dance music, dim lights....hell, you're paying for it.
It's quite a hurdle to overcome from the way we are socialized. It's okay to have sex with a man, if we've had to put a lot of effort into end result. That makes it meeting a really sexy guy we got turned on by.
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