@littlek,
Whoooo boy. There is so much I could say about this (especially after spending an hour plus, standing in a field, talking to my friendly neighborhood pediatric psychiatrist (who has a child that she doesn't undertand, at all) today....
Things like:
.... how some things can't be "cured" or "understood".
... how Mo's teacher
forgot that he had "issues" and how pissed I was but how I totally understood the forgetting.
... how I cut Mo off from his friend, his friend whose circumstances I worry about daily, because he wasn't good for Mo.
... how a million other things.
But I'm trying to get ready to leave town for the weekend so I'll just say that what you're doing is important but there is no way that you can resolve all the problems that these kids are facing.
You can't fix the families of these kids.
The fact that you even care most likely means the
world to them because it tells them that they are worthy of someone caring.
I know it must be really hard to leave this stuff at work but for your own sanity you really have to do that.