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Thu 3 Jan, 2008 04:40 pm
Having been laid off before the holidays and time on my hands until I start another job in a few weeks, I stumbled across this site after clicking a link from another forum, where I was browsing the various threads whilst totally bored.
Having explored the various categories here, I mainly liked what I saw and decided to join in.
Now, after getting used to the flow coming in on the 'at a glance' page, I've noticed one heck of a lot of first time posters appearing, who mainly start a thread regarding their dire relationship problems.
Is this normal?
Being curious as to how they got here, as opposed to other more specialised relationship orientated fora, I tried a googling exercise whereupon I punched in various searches of key phrases to see what came up.
"Relationship problem" "marriage breakdown" "My husband has left me" "My wife has left me", you name it and I tried it for quite a while.
On not one of the searches did able2know appear on the first page, yet on that first page were many different sites, all seemingly geared up to discuss these types of problem.
So just how do these threads appear here with such regularity? One of my conclusions is that the 'newbie' is actually a member of this site who wants to remain anonymous and therefore decides to register under another username in order to discuss their problem.
If this theory of mine is correct, isn't this a bit dangerous? I am pretty certain that if and when I have been around here for a while, the regular people here will know enough about me to end up guessing who I was if ever I tried to newbie style discuss a personal crisis. I just wouldn't take that risk, and would opt to go to one of those other sites, just in case.
I'm not saying that these people are wrong in choosing to come here in order to discuss their crisis, and I genuinely feel for them. I'm just mystified as to how and why they end up on able2know.
What is your take on it? Am I right in thinking that there seems to be a disproportionate amount of relationship problem threads here, bearing in mind the google search didn't have this place on their first page?
Am I missing something?
Naw, you ain't missin' nothin' . . . the sob sisters and heart-broken tough guys show up here in droves, ask for advice after posting confused and often hilarious descriptions of the holes which they have dug and now object to standing in, get advice they don't like, and disappear . . .
Par for the course . . .
Got any good, special sammich recipes?
But why
here, Setanta, as opposed to the myriad of 'relationship' sites that spring up on a google?
(Olive bread, layer of Pancetta, layer of sliced gherkin, layer of aged cheddar, layer of sliced tomato, sprinkling of ground black pepper, olive bread. Good with a glass of the deepest red wine you can get your hands on.
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You chose some phrases but that doesn't mean you chose the phrases these people are using, vid.
On my third try -- "i'm having an affair and I don't know what to do forum" -- Able2Know is the 5th result.
Now I just have to worry about my husband coming across my search in the history...
"I'm having an affair with a married man" yields Able2Know as the 6th result, and the first forum.
But if that phrase is the exact title of a thread here (is it?), it would probably show because it's so specific. I just tried what I thought a person would try if they were in that situation. A more general inquiry, like just punching in "relationship problem".
I'll now go see if that's a thread title here, just in case it's not and I look stoopid.
vid wrote:(Olive bread, layer of Pancetta, layer of sliced gherkin, layer of aged cheddar, layer of sliced tomato, sprinkling of ground black pepper, olive bread. Good with a glass of the deepest red wine you can get your hands on.
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Thanks, Boss, sounds great. JPB resurrected a sammich thread which i started back in 2004, which has me sammich-focused right now.
Sammiches are much more interesting,
and important, than relationship threads.
I punched in a topic search here for "i'm having an affair and I don't know what to do", and was presented with quite a few threads, mainly in the politics category.
Just goes to show what those politicians get up to. :wink:
Maybe that's it! Maybe I'm just no good at googling. Should I start a thread about this new found crisis of confidence? My new username could be "nogoodatgoogling123"
vid wrote:But if that phrase is the exact title of a thread here (is it?), it would probably show because it's so specific. I just tried what I thought a person would try if they were in that situation. A more general inquiry, like just punching in "relationship problem".
I'll now go see if that's a thread title here, just in case it's not and I look stoopid.
My first one wasn't a title of a thread, I just made it up.
The second one was a modified title (one that I came across with the first search).
Both are phrases that people might use, though -- as in, the people who wind up here.
My main point is that there is that I really doubt that you could have plugged in every permutation of search phrases that would lead people having those problems to Able2Know, and the fact that you weren't able to find Able2Know on the first page or so with the phrases you DID choose doesn't necessarily mean much.
Or, what you said.
(It's not a matter of being good at Googling exactly, though -- for example, a thread that got a gazillion hits is about "Depovera," I think [as opposed to Depo Provera], and so everyone in the universe who misspelled it in the same way showed up there, and there seemed to be a lot of people in the universe who misspelled it in the same way.)
Type this phrase into Google "online forums for relationship advice able2know" and you'll get
several pages of websites with referrals to A2K for expert relationship advice.
Change the subject phrase and you can get similar lists of website referrals to A2K on many subjects.
Vid, it seems that you have allowed your googler to get all weak and out of shape. You need to toughen that sucker up.
HERE are some exercises that might help you.
I shall try to do thirty minutes a day, Kickycan. First of all, I have to go to Walmart and buy me a pelvic floor.
I hope it's easy to assemble.
I hear you need a special tool.
I sense a sudden increase of prolactin on this thread.
Well I'm glad to see that at least your prolactinator is working correctly.
I had a sudden thought that you would google it and come up with breastfeeding subjects.
Here's what I was
actually referring to:
From a recent thread.
Setanta wrote:Naw, you ain't missin' nothin' . . . the sob sisters and heart-broken tough guys show up here in droves, ask for advice after posting confused and often hilarious descriptions of the holes which they have dug and now object to standing in, get advice they don't like, and disappear . . .
Par for the course . . .
Got any good, special sammich recipes?
OH - I do...I butter Italian Sandwich bread and lay it on a panini - put slices of fresh mozarella on it then slices of tomato - I sprinkle oregano and basil on that then some more fresh mozarella - butter the other side of bread and top it then press it - Holy Cow - it is good.
kickycan wrote:Vid, it seems that you have allowed your googler to get all weak and out of shape. You need to toughen that sucker up.
HERE are some exercises that might help you.
Some of us gals were joking about kegeling once, and this dumb bimbo who worked there walked in and asked "What are you laughing about"?
I said "Kegeling....do you Kegel"?
her: Yeah, but I don't get HBO.
vid, it's what Butrflynet said. When we first started the site, one of the things that Craven did was get it on as many lists of relationship forums as possible. He got it on other lists, too, but the relationships thing just bore a lot of fruit (and continues to do so), so it kinda feeds on itself.
Please pass the mozzerella. Thank you.
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