Noddy, agree about the flabby tummy with the ring

But hey, if that's what turns their crank, so be it.
I think some large women look magnificent, and obviously many men do, too, because many are married.
My epiphany came when one day, after years of refusing to venture outside in a sleeveless top (and I'm not even big), it struck me that if
I didn't care what other people looked like, it's likely no one would care about how I looki. That's when I became free.
The older I get, the less I am concerned with these things, but I also was taught to present myself in a ladylike and modest way. It's a continual battle, fighting all that ingrained training.