dadpad wrote:remarkable though it may seem the women I have discussed this book with to a woman say NO i dont want to act out my fantasy nor do I wish you to know all the ins and outs of my particular version of whatever fantasy I may have.
Some comments I recall,
Its a fantasy NOT a reality, Its MY fantasy dont touch it. You cant bring the emotional quality i require, (and) DO NOT try to make it happen.
The above is very important men.
Hmmmm thats odd.
I agree that there are many fantasies that you would not want to make reality, or try out. Thats not just for women either, there's some of my own that I wouldnt share or want to try out as well.
But there's a bunch of others that made for good, even kind of magical, acting out... pushing the borders together, things you wouldnt have spoken out loud, makes for .. some magic, yes.
Mind you, I guess it takes a special kind of relationship, I think, to be able to do it... I only had one. Sometimes I was a bit taken aback, but there were "never before in my life" moments of gratefulness too..
And there's also been the girlfriend or even ordinary friend or two who got to tell some fantasy or other that were clearly not for trying out in reality, or, respectively (with the ordinary friend or two), not with me - and it does kind of add a frisson of excitement.. and being impressed by the other's wilder-than-expected mind, makes for better, if unrelated, adventurism next time in bed too...
So, I dunno.
