Diane wrote:Chai tea, I can understand your exasperation with people who can't seem to help themselves, even when it comes to saving their own lives. Still, there are so many who's lives don't seem to count enough to them to try the smallest things.
People who grew up part of generations of welfare, drugs and poverty cannot be bundled into the same box as those who are simply irresponsible. Their lives are beyond our ability to comprehend. Many of us have had a taste, but not with both parents in jail or a mother who pimps her little girl out for drug money. There is no name for lives like that other than Hell.
My rant comes from personal contact with the homeless. Whenever I would come home from volunteering at a homeless shelter, I was reeling with the enormity of the problem and the tragic results.
An appropriate example is when a little boy at the shelter was told to go find something to eat in the kitchen, he headed dirctly to the garbage can. He didn't know about refrigerators or cupboards filled with food. His mother was upstairs stoned and wouldn't let him in. Is she immoral or irresponsible? Of course, but she cannot be judged on the same level as most people. It keeps going on and on and most of us 'forget' and go on about our lives.
End of rant.
I see your points, however, that's not quite the level the people I'm speaking of have sunk to......
These people have families, usually the dtrs, sons, grandkids were the ones doing the calling. They were all together. You would think that someone in a group of 5 to 10 people with half a dozen cell phones among them would have thought at one point to make a call.
These are also people who get continuous medical care, their conditions are monitored on a daily basis, are provided with CONSTANT medical and social services support, and yet, cannot think through a simple act of making a phone call.
Of course each situation needs to be evaluated individually, that should go without saying.
But that expression, "the buck stops here"?
Everyone gets their turn, and not rely on the idea that someone is going to rescue you. These are people who are passive agressive, who feign helplessness when they can get away with it.
Part of the reason they insist of letting others make their decesions for them is so if things do go awry, they have someone to blame.
I understand that if you have never been exposed, it's hard. However, I will not say it's impossible.
As was stated early on in this thread in so many words....We have become so PC that we are indeed enabling those who CAN make a difference in their lives see that they don't HAVE to, they can let others pitch in when there's a crisis, and cry about how they don't have the "skill sets" to make their life work.
Like Bella (I think) said, God helps those that help themselves.
If I see someone who is making a small effort, even if they are failing, at least they are trying, I'd help them all the way.
If someone came at someone who "can't help themselves" with a knife, they wouldn't sit passively. They might have to get cut to wake them up, but they they will fight with all their might for this life that "didn't seem to count"
That's survival instinct. In some cases, some people need LESS help than their getting, to get the wake up call.
This isn't intended in any way as a blanket statement to cover all humans,
but dammit, I'm tired of others lumping those that won't help themselves and don't realize they are hindering themselves onto the other side of the scales.