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Tue 30 Apr, 2024 12:22 pm
Hello able2know community,
I am new here, and quite frankly just want some 3rd party opinions so to speak, just some advice from people who don't know me, what I look like, etc... I am going to try and pose my question in a simple way, but the truth of the matter is that it is not that simple. While I could go on for days with a descriptive preface, I will put it all this way:
How do you go about accepting the judgement, pressure, and risks that come from leading a life that is different than others and ultimately, disappointing your family?
I want to pursue living my life independently, and change my career, likely making less money. Doing this will involve me staying in the town that I have been in uni for (where none of my family lives), or moving somewhere else where none of my family members live either. I want to leave my new full time position -that I have felt underwhelmed by and trapped in- to explore pursuing other things that I actually have a passion for. The start may be rough financially, but I just want to live full adult life, and not worry about the opinions anymore.
I am close to 26 by the way. I know I am really young, but I am now facing the real bills, with a strong drive to abandon the degrees I earned and this office job, for a more exciting and passionate life. That in itself shows that I am willing to be "irresponsible", and I just know this choice/independent lifestyle will cause a rise.
Thank you for your advice in advance.
-no name given
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@nonamegiven,
"How do you go about accepting the judgement, pressure, and risks that come from leading a life that is different than others and ultimately, disappointing your family? "
Why do you need to "accept" the judgement, pressure and risks? Are you sure they'll be disappointed? Why do you care about that?
Just do what you want to do. Life goes by so quickly and you don't get your time back, so think of the best way you can live your life, without regrets. These people who are your family are just people and you don't need their approval. They're not living your life. And they probably don't care as much as you might think. And if they do, oh well. They're not you so they don't get a say in what you decide.
@nonamegiven,
I graduated from law school in 1986. I hated it from Day 1 and, on June 6, 1990, I tendered my resignation to my then-boss. I have never practiced law since, and I am a far happier person because of it.
Were my parents disappointed that I didn't continue? Possibly. But they also saw and knew (because I told them) how unhappy I was.
So, start by telling your family how much your current situation is killing you inside.
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