Ex Situation

Please take him off that other woman's hands.

She doesn't deserve this mishigas.

If he's only been dating her for 3 weeks but claims he still loves you, it should be fairly easy for him to break up with her without hurting her. They have both only invested 3 weeks together, and not even all of that if you're seeing him two or three times a week.

Something's off about what he's saying. Stop seeing him altogether and see what happens.

I thought about going no contact with him to see if that prompts him to make a decision but it is so hard to walk away from him.

I also couldn't image being her and hearing what he says about me. I would feel like there was a 3rd person in the relationship. I think, though, that she is leaving her husband for him and doesn't want to end up alone, so she is giving him all the grace.

Are you nuts? Cause he is.

It is impossible for me to say with certainty whether or not your ex will come back to you. However, based on what you have told me, it seems like he is still in love with you and may be using the new relationship as a way to try to forget about you. If this is the case, it is possible that he will eventually realize that he wants to be with you and come back to you.

However, it is also possible that he will stay with the new woman. If he is truly in love with her, then he may not want to leave her for you. It is also possible that he is simply using you as a way to get over her and will eventually break up with you as well.

Ultimately, the only way to know for sure what your ex is thinking is to talk to him about it. However, I would advise you to be careful about getting your hopes up. It is possible that he will never come back to you, and it is important to be prepared for that possibility.

In the meantime, I would focus on taking care of yourself and moving on with your life. If you are still in love with your ex, it may be helpful to talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and develop a plan for moving on.

It is also important to remember that you are not alone. Many people go through breakups, and it is possible to find happiness again. With time and effort, you will be able to move on from this relationship and find someone who truly loves and appreciates you.

You are very kind, thank you. When we split up I struggled a lot. Lots of anxiety. I realized that I have Anxious Attachment style and attempted to go No Contact. I lasted 4 days and during those days I felt better! I didn't have anxiety. After we connected again (we had preset the amount of time before we would talk again) he said he felt like he was dying and couldn't handle not talking. Now that we're quasi a thing again, I know that I will be ok without him if I need to be, I just need to stay in No Contact, for myself. It will hurt and I will miss him but you are right, I will have to move on, for me.

He was with his new lady yesterday. It was hard, but he kept texting me the entire time. That night he kept apologizing for any hurt it caused, being with her. He asked me to spend the night with him tonight and I said I would. He told her that he is going to his mom's house.

I really think he is an avoidant and doesn't want to hurt either of us. I can't blame him, I wouldn't want to hurt anyone. He is in a pickle and needs to figure out what he wants. I will be patient for a bit longer (he is worth it) but after a while I will have to love me more than I love him.

He doesn't text her when he's with me. He tells me things about he and her that he could lie about but I feel like he's being honest with me. I hope so anyway. We have always been wildly open with each other.

I'm really excited about tonight. I think it can set the tone for what is to come....