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I think I saw the man of my life (just saw but it's interresting I swear)

 
 
cyhmie
 
Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2023 10:55 am
Okay, so there's some details that I'm not going to write because it might be too long (but if you ant them just tell me)
So there is a guy, I discovered him on social network first a long time ago and find him cute but didn't go more far.
One day, I saw him for the first time in my life, how to say he was the most charismatic man I never saw in my life, and I don't want to admit but maybe I fell at first sight.
After that, I saw him 3 other times at various moments but never went to talk to him because I'm too shy and the last time I saw him, he was with a girl so I decided to gave up.
BUT today is Valentine's day, and I somewhat manifest that if I saw him today (yeah I didn't really gave up I know), it's a sign of the Universe or God directly.
Guess what, I saw him. I didn't know what to do, I didn't really expect that, I just manifested on my head but not really with all my heart. But I saw him, he was too far away but I knew it was him.
So, in fact I don't know what to do, is it really a sign or just me who is obsessed like I'm obsessed with various things in my life ?
And what should I do ? The guy seems in couple and I don't want to try anything knowing that.
But come on ? Is it a sign that he is the man of my life ? Or am I inventing things like always ?
 
Mame
 
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Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2023 11:41 am
@cyhmie,
You're obsessing about someone you've never met and just because you saw him you think it's a sign that he's the man of your life? Yes, you're inventing things. You really need to get a life, and I mean that in the nicest possible way.

Whether he's in a relationship or not, every time you've seen him you have done nothing, so what makes you think now is any different?

Meet someone for real.
izzythepush
 
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Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2023 11:52 am
@cyhmie,
cyhmie wrote:

Guess what, I saw him.


Wow, I never would have guessed that I was more on the lines of a greek salad or at the very least a couple of lettuce leaves and a termarter.
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cyhmie
 
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Reply Tue 14 Feb, 2023 01:03 pm
@Mame,
that hurts but thanks.
Don't worry I meet people in real too.
It's just that I know he have some caracteristics I'm searching in a man.
If you don't believe in what we call signs or manifesting I can do nothing about it but personally, it takes a place in my life because I already experienced things that have sense.
I will do nothing for the moment, one day maybe something going's to happen.
For the moment, it's not my priority but thanks for the answer Smile
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jespah
 
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Reply Wed 15 Feb, 2023 06:36 am
@cyhmie,
Manifesting has another name:

Wishful thinking.

When we search for patterns in life, we find them. And then we believe in them due to something called confirmation bias.

You want it to mean something, so you spin and stretch the smallest thing into something that you feel has meaning.

You saw someone who lives in your city or town. Because this person is striking to you, you notice them when you spot anyone even remotely like them, hoping that the person you're seeing is him.

When it turns out to be him, you congratulate yourself on being right. And for the times when you're incorrect, you justify it by saying you weren't doing the manifesting perfectly correctly.

And so your confirmation bias is bolstered.

Human beings are creatures of habit. We go to the same grocery stores, gyms, parks, restaurants, houses of worship, clubs, etc. All. The. Time.

You do, and so does he. As do the other people in your town or city. You never see many of those people because they don't cross your path at all. For example, unless you work at or volunteer at a home for the aged, or you have a family member in one, you are not likely to meet people in their 90s. They exist in your city, but you never see them.

So, you're picking him out from fewer people than actually live in your area. In a decent sized city or town where there are choices, you are just plain going to coexist with people who you never see.

You're not looking at the women. Age plays a part as well. If you're in your 20s, the only people you know who are in their 50s are likely to be parents and other family members of that generation, and the people at work who are in middle and upper management.

As a straight woman in your 20s, you're probably not noticing any men over the age of about 40. At least, you're not looking for them. You're also not looking for kids.

If you're deliberately seeking him out, walking down the streets where you've seen him, etc., then your thumb is on the scale and you're upping the odds of a person walking down the street turning out to be him.

You aren't manifesting anything because manifesting doesn't exist.

You are, rather, seeing patterns in your everyday life, increasing the odds of seeing this guy (who you know nothing about, apart from his looks) by going to the places where you've seen him, and amping your confirmation bias up to 11.

It's the same principle that "psychics" use to convince people. Familiarity and odds.

My suggestion -- go back to school and take a statistics class so that you, too, can see what kind of utter bullshit manifesting is. And meet and talk to the men in your class. I can pretty much guarantee you that spending time with men, talking to them, and not just wishing and hoping, will be a more fruitful use of your time.

If you want a relationship with anyone, then you have to open your mouth and actually talk to them.
cyhmie
 
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Reply Wed 15 Feb, 2023 11:51 am
@jespah,
thank you for the reply,
the arguments are good and I can't desagree with them
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But it seems like you thinking I'm a little girl in twenties who knows nothing about life. Quite irritating when you don't know people.

For the part that I should takes some statistics classes, don't worry already took them and had a good grade for them. Yes, because I'm studying medicine, normally this would suggest that I'm way far from idiot.

I love logic, I love intelligence.
But, this doesn't mean I don't believe in fate or don't think life doesn't have a spiritual part because it's the case for me.
If you don't believe in things like that, I can do nothing about it and I don't want to.
I'm young yes but have already experienced too much things for a young girl and everyday I live with it.
Maybe it's just coincidences, maybe this mean nothing, if it's the case, I will desinteressed myself rapidly like always.
I believe in romance, so one day I know it will happen, but doesn't mean I can do nothing about it, I can force fate becuase it's what I'm planning to do.
Next time I'm planning to talk to him when I'm going to saw him if I'm going to see him again because I'm going to believe it's not just coincidence.

And for the last part, I already say it,but don't worry I talk to men, men or women, in fact it doesn't matter. I'm not hoping, I know there's signs in the life and we should take them when we acknowledged them.
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glitterbag
 
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Reply Wed 15 Feb, 2023 04:03 pm
Now my head hurts.
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izzythepush
 
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Reply Thu 16 Feb, 2023 02:59 am
@cyhmie,
Is English your first language?
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