Did she cheat on me

You're expecting full and complete fidelity in less than 6 months of dating?

You either trust her, or you don't. But no matter what, you have not spent a lot of time together as a couple.

Three months is very early to be serious. Are you serious? Have you discussed that with her, exchanged "I love you"s and all of that?

If not, then your expectations of perfect fidelity are misplaced.

Yes we have agreed to not to sleep with other people. We're pretty loved up and discussing plans for the future.

You're discussing plans for the future, but when she asks you to leave
her place to be with her ex boyfriend, you just leave?
That's some future you're getting into....

Again, good point.

@CalamityJane
Yes. Good point, I have to agree I may have been rather foolish to have trusted 100 percent someone I have known for such a short amount of time.

URL: https://able2know.org/topic/577401-1

Thanks all for your replys. I just wanted to know if I was being naive, Stupid.
,or to trusting.
I do have the answer to my own question .
so here goes.
I met my wife 35 years ago.

one night about three months in to the relationship. one of her exes visited her on a friends only basis,

She aked me and other friends to leave so she could have a catchup like I said, left them in her flat together.

I trusted her. I did ask her a few times after if anything had happened between them that night but she vehemently denied anything other than a coffee and friendly chat took place.
then six months ago during a row she blurted out that she had sex with him that night. And two other guys after that. So called friends of mine believe it or not. One of them while i was asleep in the same room.

It's utterly destroyed my faith in her And I had a nervous breakdown, though I'm getting past it now I do wonder how many other people she has cheated on me with in the years we've been together.

I trusted her 100 percent during our time together, now I feel cheated and utterly destroyed. I know it was a long time ago but time is irrelevant and I've completely lost faith in her. We have two adult kids and 5 grandchildren now so I can't really leave the relationship.

Youve been married 35 years AND NOW : "I trusted her 100 percent during our time together, now I feel cheated and utterly destroyed. I know it was a long time ago but time is irrelevant and I've completely lost faith in her. We have two adult kids and 5 grandchildren now so I can't really leave the relationship."

Sooooooooo 35 years later this 'indescretion' that occurred during the first 3 months of your early first dating AND you are still arguing about this?? I cannot imagine being accused of a real or imagined indiscretion for 35 years without leaving you or shouting lies back in your face just to piss you off.

This jealousy is so bizarre and disturbing, if I was your wife I would have dumped you 34 years ago. Get some help or yourself and for everybody else you are extremely unforgivingly jealous.

Wow, I showed your reply to my wife and she agrees with you wholeheartedly. Your reply does seem a bit harsh in places, but thanks for the wake-up call, I owe my wife a huge apology if I'm honest. She's the best thing that ever happened to me and that's all I really need to focus on. Time for me to repair some of the damage I've done to my marriage. She's been so supportive I really don't deserve such an amazing lady.

I was thinking about your response. Are you saying I shouldn't be upset about the things that she did? And that if you had done that to your partner and they were pissed off about it you would "Dump them." Or Shout lies at them" to hurt them even more.
Quite frankly I found your comments
"Bizarre disturbing,"
You Lady are a terrible human being, and need a lot more help than I ever will. I feel truly sorry for any guy who has or ever will cross paths with you. 😕

This reply is the opposite of your previous one, yet nothing has changed.

That's your problem, inconsistancy, nobody will be able to predict how you will react to anything, or the same thing.

I think it's a mask, your first post was what you thought you ought to say, the mask.

Your last post sounds like real you full of resentment and lashing out.

Glitterbag is a wonderful person, it's not her fault your wife cheated on you, so don't take out your resentment on her.

The only thing I have sympathy with you is the timing. She threw that in your face six months ago, this isn't something that happened thirty odd years ago. It's six months, and you have to deal with inserting that unwelcome fact into the memories of your first few years together.

I Have to disagree. Her comments were bordering on abusive, and if those are her views on how to treat a partner, then I meant everything I said. Me and my wife are getting on really well now. And yes I did overreact when my wife told me, but it was a bit of a shock.

"Glitterbag is a wonderful person"

Did you actually read her reply to me?

Oh, that's so not abusive.

It's the dang truth. I'm sorry if that hurts but bottom line -- the Statute of Limitations ran on this over 30 years ago.

To continue to let it bother you is a kind of obsessive thinking.

Go to therapy and try to figure out why this is still eating at you. Your issues are above our pay grade.

You're pissed even though I didn't say it. You seem to put a great deal of value on the 1st 3 months you met this woman, had she already promised to be yours forever and ever and would grind her eyes out if any man ever looked at her? You didn't have a solid forever relationship marriage yet..............and you are still asking about what MIGHT have happened 35 years before you got married?
That strikes me as nuts, but that's just me.......I have no more time for fabulously jealous and possessive men. I lived thru that luxury with my first husband, he came close to killing me (while he was sleeping with my best friend)....no more for me, ever.

By the way, next week the gitterbags celebrate their 44th anniversary.

Congratulations. 44 is a nice cheap one, the anniversary gift is groceries.

Yep. spoke to my doctor today, it would appear i have some mental health issues to deal with, you all seem to be realisric good people. sorry if i offended anyone here. that certainly wasn't my intention.
thank you all for pointing me in the right direction. onward and upward thank you....

Happy anniversary guys. ❤💞💝