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A married man who cheats on the wife for 20 over years.
Initially lied and told me that his relationship with his wife was no good and he wanted to divorce. In fact, he had a quarrel with his wife who refused to have sex with him. He had no intention divorce her at all. He merely used my presence to spite her
Made me pregnant and then forced me to go for abortion and threatened me. He even shifted into my flat to bring me to the hospital to ensure that I really abort our child.
Later said need to shift back as his daughter threatened to kill herself. Actually, want to **** his wife again. And he also tried to keep me with him as a spare replacement. I was stupid to believe in his lies repeatedly.
He just wanted to maintain both sides to satisfy his sexual desires. Such a good actor and good at lying and cheating on both sides as well as maintaining his position as a good husband for all to see. He goes on many expensive holidays with his wife and his wife is announcing to everyone what a good hubby he is. But in actual all his dark secrets are all hidden. When his problem resolved, he began to see me as a third party, and he mistreat and despise me. I am now given the lowest and cheapest kind of treatment. He called me a prostitute and treat my house like a cheap hotel. We will always have the cheapest dinner and he will want to quickly go home to have sex and he leaves ASAP once done and will not appear until the next round of SEX. He does not want me to appear in public places
with him as he sees me as his darkest secret.
Now he says he is sick of me and see me as an obstacle and nuisance. I felt ruined, used and cheated. Especially when he says I am just like an old hole to be thrown away by him like rubbish and anyone is welcome to take over from him ANYDAY ANYTIME. I was humiliated and sad and angry. He can say that he wants to stay faithful to his wife and behave like a perfect husband in front of his family now
He even boasted that one side is LEGAL ******* and my side is illegal so now he had this arrogant attitude that I cannot do anything to him. His behavior is so pretentious in front of others that people think he is a nice and helpful guy. As a result, he became popular and always out every Friday hunting for his next potential victim. He plays his sadistic hide-and-seek game which he thinks it is fun by torturing people mentally. He pretends nothing has happened in front of others and enjoy his life tremendously. He behaves like a harmless 100% gentleman to others. But he is really a wolf in sheep clothing. A real hypocrite.
I have suffered for a long time in his hands and are still suffering from STD (which he has passed to me) while he enjoys his life now and go on expensive holidays with his family even though he declared himself bankrupt.

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@Sunshine05,

Of course you have recourse.

FFS, the guy's a narcissistic swine and that's being cruel to swine.

If he passed you an STD then I bet he passed it to his wife as well. I am generally not a fan of anonymous messages or of telling the spouse because they are likely to already know and everyone just shoots the messenger anyway.

But this is different because there's an STD. She may very well have it and not know about it. Untreated STDs can do all sorts of nasty things to people.

I think it's kinda the responsible thing to do to tell her, but you can do so anonymously and with nothing specific about you or the affair. Just something like -

Quote:

Hi,

I know you don't know me but I am suggesting you go to your doctor and get tested for ___(fill in the name of the STD here).

Wishing you good health.

And then of course don't sign your name or anything. If you live nearby, then just slip an envelope with no postage and no return address, with her name on it, into their mailbox. If not, then there are means to send anonymous messages online. Google is your friend.

Is this perfect? Of course not. But you will have done what is essentially a societal duty, which is to inform anyone who may have been exposed to this disease.

Anyone with half a brain will realize this means she's been cheated on. But, like I said, she probably knows that already.

But STDs can (depends on which, of course), cause cancer and brain damage, and blind and even kill people. This woman, no matter what you think of her or her husband (and she is likely putting on a show on social media, so take that into consideration if you're reading her posts), she does not deserve that.

And then wash your hands of this trainwreck.

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@jespah,

Jespah,
I have noticed that you have responded to a lot of posts similar to this post.
In many cases the woman has done something that is morally wrong. In most cases the man has done something morally wrong (which people generally believe is more "morally wrong".
My question to you is "why don't you realize how the New Testament raises up the dignity of women far higher than what was thought of at the time of Jesus. This is both in the minds of Jews and Romans/Greeks".
What do you consider so bad about a husband "loving his wife as Christ loves His Church"?

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@Sunshine05,

So what's your question? Mine is: "Where is your self-respect?"

Obviously drop this guy. Stop seeing him.

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@NealNealNeal,

Don't force your religious beliefs on someone of the Jewish faith.

Stop proselytising.

Freedom of religion is supposed to be a cornerstone of your Democracy.

You don't live in 15th Century Spain.

Show some sensitivity FFS.

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@izzythepush,

If you are the lover of history that you claim to be you would know that women were held in very low esteem by both the Jews and Rome when Jesus lived. For example Rabbi Hillel said that a man can divorce his wife for almost anything. If you look at page 7 of the Siddur you will see that every day the man thanks God that he was not made a woman.
Freedom of religion gives me the freedom to share my faith. I have every intention to continue to share my faith. People like you who want to control what I believe will have NO effect on my evangelism. I will "do what God wants me to do, not what YOU want me to do" in this regard.

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@NealNealNeal,

What a weird comment, "lover of history."

It sounds fetishistic, demeaning, anti intellectual.

I know my history, and I know that your religion has persecuted Jewish people from the off.

Bearing that in mind, quoting the New Testament to a Jewish person is intellectually redundant at best. At worst fascistic.

You're not interested in giving practical advice, just spouting your self important evangelism.

This has got nothing to do with the historical/religious treatment of women.

The OP has been treated appallingly by the married man in question. HE IS A REAL ****.

If it was the other way round, and genders reversed, she would have been a real ****.

She's not blameless by any stretch of the imagination, but he's another level entirely.

Stop using this as an excuse to spread your horseshit evangelism and either try to give practical, non judgemental advice, or **** off out of it.

There's plenty of threads dedicated to your theological mumbo jumbo.

Btw, I type looking at the keyboard, I didn't realise I'd put the caps lock on, but decided to leave it anyway.

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@izzythepush,

You falsely accuse "my religion" of persecuting people.
I was born and raised Jewish. However, I realized that the Jewish leaders were absolutely wrong about Jesus. They were also wrong about the application of Biblical Judaism. They persecuted Jesus and they persecuted His disciples. I discovered that Jesus was indeed the promised Messiah of Israel.
I believe that the persecution of Jews later on by the CATHOLIC church was wrong. Politics played a terrible role in the behavior of the Catholic leaders. I believe that "power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely". That is why I object to the "progressives" in the Democrat party trying to destroy our constitutional right to free speech. Cancel culture is immoral. This includes you telling me not to share my faith.

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@NealNealNeal,

What I believe is irrelevant.

There is a history of forced conversion from the Inquisitions to the Pogroms and the Holocaust.

Anything taken to extremes is wrong, and free speech is no different. The fetishisation of free speech has lead to the legitimising of hate speech, and the parity of truth and lies.

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@izzythepush,

You are correct to criticize the Inquisition and the Holocaust. I likewise have criticized it. However, I also criticize the tyranny of the Communist leaders of several countries. Their is no freedom there.
The U.S. is quickly falling to the tyranny of "progressive" leaders of the Democrats. I am opposed to that

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@NealNealNeal,

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The U.S. is quickly falling to the tyranny of "progressive" leaders of the Democrats.

How about providing some examples of this "tyranny" – do you really think Biden rules by himself with absolute power? What conditions do you find oppressive? What "progressive" leaders are you talking about? Are you aware that the progressives are only a minority caucus in the Democratic Party and often find their proposals stymied?

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@hightor,

Have a good long wait.

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@hightor,

Hightor
I would be happy to address your questions. Your communication method is vastly superior to that of people like Izzy. I do wonder why our previous communication in other posts did not inform you of my concerns. Your previous answer was that I "should not worry about it".
My response to your questions will require several posts which I will do over several days:
First, since you mentioned Biden, let's talk about him.
Biden is merely a puppet of the extreme left. He is incompetent and shows signs of senility. If you compare statements that he made before he became senile and statements he makes now, you will see that sometimes they are the exact opposite. When questioned he sometimes blurts out his true beliefs. Then, his leftist puppeteers have to "correct" his statement.

To be continued.

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@NealNealNeal,

NealNealNeal wrote:

Biden is merely a puppet of the extreme left. He is incompetent and shows signs of senility.

The extreme left? In America?

You're having a laugh. You don't even have UHC in America.

What you class as extremism is women being in control of their bodies, children receiving adequate health care regardless of their parent's income and a safe environment where they can learn without being shot to bits by the NRA.

I can see why someone like you would be opposed to that.

Jesus was a Socialist which is why alleged right wing "Christians" hate it, they're about bearing false witness and pretending camels and eyes 9f needles don't exist.

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@hightor,

Now, let's discuss the fiasco in Afghanistan:
Biden was totally heinous in how he withdrew our troops in Afghanistan. He was unique in betraying U.S. soldiers. He left them to certain death, which had never happened before.
His actions brought misery to the Afghanistan people. This was especially true about bringing misery to Afghanistan women.
He left behind armaments that the Taliban found quite valuable. Our National Security was compromised by his pitiful actions.
Finally, as the coward that he is, he blamed everyone and everything except himself.

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@hightor,

During Trump's administration, foreign countries (Iran, China, Russia, countries in Europe, etc.) respected the United States. Now, they mock the United States. Russia has invaded Ukraine, China is showing aggression towards Taiwan, we are allowing Russia to "negotiate" with Iran for us, Germany and other Western European countries are now at the mercy of Russia due to the stupidity of Biden's policies concerning energy, and Western Europe has no trust in Biden.

If you want to discuss any of the above in more detail, we can do so.

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@NealNealNeal,

Trump signed deal, not Biden.

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@NealNealNeal,

Absolute horseshit.

When Trump was in power stupid American jokes shot up.

Trump made America a joke.

Of course Russia loved him, he obeyed Russia's commands.

And the Chinese hated the git

This is what happens when you only watch far right wing propaganda.

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@izzythepush,

Right now I am addressing questions raised by Hightor. I am at the beginning stages of discussing this. When I am finished, I will respond to you. 🙂

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@NealNealNeal,

You have posted nothing but lies.

Have you ever been to Europe?

I doubt it.

Trump is despised in Western Europe, he made your country a laughing stock.

Biden is a respected statesman whose treatment of Russia/Ukraine has been masterful.

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