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how can I keep this girl away from me?

 
 
Mon 30 May, 2022 04:05 pm
(all the names are FAKE!!)

hey! I need to know what to do in this situation.

So, there is this girl in my class named Ash (I studied with her for a long time) and I started to feel an interest in her, and I thought she was interested too. I started to drop some hints at her to see if she really wanted something and one day she told me she had a crush on me so I told her I liked her too.

the next day, I talked to a friend of Ash's because I wanted to know if she talked about me to her friends, and the girl said that she had an obsession with an old girlfriend of hers, Judy, and that, by the way, Ash had stalked her until her house (as well as stealing the girl's friends' cell phone to find out more about her). her friends also told me that when the two broke up, Ash faked depression and tics to get Judy's attention.

I was really scared when I found out about all this, and my biggest fear right now is being her next obsession. today, two of Ash's friends sent me a message saying that she really wanted to kiss me and date me, but I got desperate! I really don't know what to do, I don't want to be rude to Ash because I know she's going to cry for being too sensitive, but I'm really scared of her and the worst thing is that I gave her hope before I knew this whole story.

what can i do to keep this girl away from me without being chased home? /hj
 
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jespah
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Mon 30 May, 2022 06:22 pm
@samm7720,
Well, telling her you like her is not the way to go about it. Which I am sure you realize now.

But also keep in mind that you're only hearing one side of things. Maybe your pal Judy is exaggerating. Because, y'know, teenaged girls never, ever exaggerate.

But let's go with your initial question.

I know you don't want to hear any advice about talking to a teacher, even though they exist (in part) to try to help young people who have problems in school.

So, let's talk about you taking matters into your own hands.

You don't have to be out and out rude, but you can certainly ignore Ash/keep interactions to a minimum.

For example, she asks you if you're free Saturday night.

You say any of these (adapt as necessary):

* Sorry, gotta study.
* Can't, it's family game night.
* No can do, I promised Judy we'd go out for tacos (this doesn't have to mean you fake going out with Judy. You're just 2 friends getting tacos)
* Sorry, I've got baseball/violin/knitting/whatever practice that night.
* I am finally getting around to watching Game of Thrones (or whatever) and I prefer being alone for that.

Short, sweet, with no open backdoor. And these aren't really apologies; they're conversational niceties. Which you can alter or eliminate. E.g. the first one can just be, I can't, gotta study.

Oh, and for the ones where you say you'll be at home, stay home for real. Otherwise, you'll end up in even more of a bind and will have to face

The Wrath of Ash....

(Which sounds like a b-movie).

Are these lies? Why yes, yes they are.

Honesty, when it comes to sparing someone's feelings, isn't always the best policy.

And I still say involving a teacher could turn out to be a good idea.
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jcboy
 
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Tue 31 May, 2022 11:33 am
@The Anointed,
How does someone catch AIDS a second time? Rolling Eyes
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Ragman
 
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Fri 3 Jun, 2022 07:19 pm
@The Anointed,
You have shown extremely poor judgement. There’s nothing enlightening, entertaining or funny about what you have written. Shame on you.
The Anointed
 
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Fri 3 Jun, 2022 07:51 pm
@Ragman,
Quote:
There’s nothing enlightening, entertaining or funny about what you have written. Shame on you.
Quote:


O, the shame of it all. How will I dare to show my face in public ever again.

Shame, Shame on me, a wicked sinner. O please forgive me, O righteous Ragman?
Ragman
 
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Fri 3 Jun, 2022 08:19 pm
@The Anointed,
Making light of AIDS and those who suffer shows how little you feel and think of others. That’s shows what a religious hypocrite you really are.
Anointed? Pffft! To show us all hypocrisy at the lowest form.
The Anointed
 
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Fri 3 Jun, 2022 08:59 pm
@Ragman,
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Making light of AIDS and those who suffer shows how little you feel and think of others. That’s shows what a religious hypocrite you really are. Anointed? Pffft! To show us all hypocrisy at the lowest form.



O woe is me., How I wish that I was not such a down to earth fellow, who can see the lighter side of life, and more like those pompous, Pious, pretentious people who call themselves Christians. I am condemned as the lowest form of hypocrite by the most righteous and over-zealous Ragman.

In order to not offend the delicate constitution of the most righteous Ragman, I must now remove from my repertoire of humorous Jokes, and hilarious short poems, all references to any infirmity that any unidentified human may be suffering from anywhere in the world.

Obesity, cross-eyed, hair-lipped, or people infirmed in anyway, cannot be mentioned.

If we had more people like the righteous Ragman, what a dull and dreary world this would be.
Ragman
 
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Fri 3 Jun, 2022 10:51 pm
@The Anointed,
I’m neither a Christian nor interested in your palaver!
H.A.N.D.I.
The Anointed
 
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Fri 3 Jun, 2022 11:02 pm
@Ragman,
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I’m neither a Christian nor interested in your palaver!


Who are you trying to Kid, YOURSELF?

You seem to be interested enough to sit in judgement over my posts.
Ragman
 
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Sat 4 Jun, 2022 12:19 am
@The Anointed,
And Why not? ‘Cause they suck badly.
The Anointed
 
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Sat 4 Jun, 2022 03:10 am
@Ragman,
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And Why not? ‘Cause they suck badly.


And why would a biblical ignoramus such as yourself think that?
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