Is it control

I don’t think you did anything wrong, to me he sounds controlling and insecure.

These things usually emanate from a feeling of being ignored, or from a sense of being less than adored, or one of feeling abhorred. Honestly, madam, since I do not have 'his side' of the story, my output is decidedly limited. But, let us assume that he does not check on you when he is playing games with his buddies.

That said, it does seem that his actions toward you are a bit unseemly. To find 'the girls' you hang out with an existential threat seems to me to be a bit much. Somehow (and maybe a 'justified somehow') he sees your actions as being those optimized for denying his innate value. He senses this deprivation even though you do not.

Did you ever think of this? Maybe your inner strength in this regard is stronger, saner, more cultivated and more rational. And, if it is, maybe you ought to refrain from treating him as if he has equal stamina in this regard. You love him, right? Then would it be too much, too onerous a task, to come down to his level and tease out his real reasons for feeling so damn left out? And, doing so without the negative feedback?

Doing this is what the marriage deal is all about: not requiring one's mate, always, to come up to the same level as you are. Maybe there are traits to his personality whereby you are the weaker and, then, you would be the one needing this infusion of human largess.

Again, I cannot go further, since I do not know his mentality on this topic. But, overall, I would place my money on the side of kindness. Doing that, you will not go wrong for long. - David Lyga

Agreed.

The only thing I can think of outside that is could it be he was worried about you as this is not the norm for you? And he is showing it this way? Just thinking outside here but to me if you were really worried like you got hurt in some way I would call if I didn't get a text back.

I've done that with my young adult kids ...if they are out and u haven't heard from them I will text first ... Then send another simply telling them just send a quick note so I know you are ok.

Maybe if you find out it is that...more he us worried about you...you two can have some sort of agreement like you would just send a quick text saying you are going to be later.