@Mame,
Mame wrote:
What do you suggest he do? He does make remarks when his mother complains. He doesn't point things out to her about her behaviour (remember this is the woman who cut a dress of a baby and he was worried about standing up to her), but he does say what he would permit or not.
Nothing you can do when people won't listen.
Trust me, I did let my mom know exactly how I felt when she cut my granddaughter's dress but there's only so much you can do about that at this point. It's not like I was sitting there when she cut it and just let it happened. By the time I got there the damage was already done. Yes, maybe I'm venting because I constantly see my brother taking advantage of people time after time. He wrecked his Tahoe and dented the fender, still drivable. But instead of putting the $500 deductible on his rent, he put the truck in the shop to get it fixed then flashed pics to everyone in our group chat bragging about the Cadillac rental he had. All the while, he was sleeping on our parent's sofa. Priorities! That truck could have waited. Several years ago I unfriended him on Facebook because he put up a post about how some people were just jealous of him and his status and position he has in his church. Yeah, he was talking about me. Trust me, I'm not jealous in the least. Been with my first and only wife for some 20 years, I have the same title and position in my church, not that it matters to anyone because a title at a church is just a title. My wife and I get along great. We pay our bills on time, go on vacation when we want and enjoy each other. I have a great relationship with my other siblings too. Most of the time my mom will call me to the house to do something for her simply because y brother wont. He won't even back her car into the driveway when she asks him to. My siblings and I have discussed this too. We think his pastor is making a fool out of him. He'll fly somewhere and will ask our brother to take him to the airport then when he returns will ask him to come pick him up from the airport simply because he doesn't want to get his wife out of bed at whatever hour. Yes, his pastor is married and they live close to the airport and they have 3 cars from what I've been told. I'm not getting out of my bed to go pick my pastor up from the airport at 3 AM simply because he didn't want to wake his wife up at that hour. I have a novel idea! Why don't you just drive one of your cars to the airport, pay to park it there while you're gone like most people, then follow me here, when you get back take your keys out of your pocket and drive yourself home. That way no one has to come pick you up. This is the stuff that my brother does to remain in the pastor's good graces. He's the only deacon at their church who isn't married so the pastor never asks any of the other men to drive him around. See, if I say anything to my brother then it's not going to be pretty. I'm not going to sugar coat anything with him. It may end up in a fight and I will not do that in or at our parent's house. Our oldest sister has already laid the law down to him telling him he's got 3 months to get back up on his feet and to get out of their house. We'll see come the end of March how that goes. YES, I'm venting because I'm sick and tired of his reckless behavior and decision making. Then when he falls flat on his face again he comes running to the family for support. He's burned those bridges with 2 of our siblings so he knows he can't even ask them for a cup of coffee or even a meal at McDonald's. Our mom gave him money she was going to use for her dental work, and now she's out that money and is still dealing with her medical issues. Yes, I'm venting!
