@Mame,
This crap escalates. I was always singled out for being the only one not from Yorkshire. My father suddenly becomes super Yorkshire whenever he goes there, praising everything Yorkshire and pointing out how un Yorkshire I am.
I wasconstantly ridiculed and couldn't respond because I was just a kid, and my father wouldn't hear a word said against his mother despite her remaining the foulest person I have ever met.
Obviously once I got old enough to leave home I avoided going to Yorkshire as much as possible, but some things can't be avoided.
As I've pointed outmy father is obsessed withYorkshire and the benighted village he was born in. He bought plots in the graveyard long ago.
When my mother died I had to go there for her funeral. Now there were a few relatives I hadn't seen for a while and some had never seen my youngest son. The last funeral I attended there was my grandmother's, and since then my own wife had died from breast cancer.
I brought them both upon my own, my youngest was only four when she died and by the time we went to my mother's funeral he was sixteen.
My late wife was very fair and prone to sunburn while I tan very easily and seldom burn. Both my children have inherited their mother's complexion. The funeral was in late August and I had been out a lot.
This was my mother's funeral, and my wife had died since the last time I had seen any of them.
My eldest cousin, who had long been my grandmother's favourite, and also very vocal during my childhood shouted out at me during the reception. She asked why I was so much darker than my kids and mockingly asking if they were mine, in short saying my late wife was unfaithful and I was bringing up someone else's kids.
Now every single person I have told this story to is shocked and disgusted at such behaviour. Every single person except my own father, who was outside the room when she shouted out. He is as deaf as a post anyway.
When I told him, at my mother's memorial service at the church where he lives in Somerset, his response was to say, "Don't be so daft."
We don't have much to do with each other anymore.
He's the one stuck in his house all alone while I'm surrounded by my loving family.
That's where this sort of abusive behaviour can lead.
