@Kackygonzo,
There’s just so many things wrong here.... hard to unpack it all.
First, she needs to not be your friend at all anymore. That includes a complete cut off for her and her husband. It her husband asks why the cutoff, feel free to tell him. No negotiation on this.
Second, your husband needs to look at his alcohol use. If he is susceptible to every woman who grabs him when he drinks, then both of you are in trouble. The door is open to escalate actions between your husband and this woman, so keep an eye out.
Third, you husband was very disrespectful of you and the situation. He needs to respect his wedding vows. Counseling might be a good idea since this mistrust of him, plus hurt, humiliation and resentment, will only grow over time for you.
(May I ask your ages? It sounds like a 40’s kind of thing. )