@nycdad,
nycdad wrote:
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He decided to stop talking to me because I don't want to get a second job. I don't need a second job. ...My roommate completely ignores me....
So what?
Allow me to repeat myself.
So what?
Lots of people have roommates they don't talk to. Your roommate doesn't have to be your pal. There's nothing awkward about this unless you decide it has to be awkward. Being friendly is lovely, but you two can also cooexist in the space.
Same thing with his deciding you need a second job. It's none of his damned business.
Both of these things hinge on everyone paying the bills. If you can pay the bills, then your roommate's suggestion that you get a second job is misplaced and downright meddlesome. It's none of his business if you have any $ in your savings account.
Anyone's requirements for a roommate should be (and I've had plenty):
- They can pay their fair share of rent, utilities, whatever has to be paid for
- They don't make the place unlivable with dirty dishes and the like that attract vermin, or turn up music super-loud
- If you're not a smoker and they are, they don't smoke inside
- They don't potentially endanger your life by letting an abusive lover in, or dealing drugs on the premises
- They buy their own food if you're not sharing, and they reimburse you if they eat yours (same with soap, shampoo, etc.)
- They lock up the place when they're not there
And... that's about it.
Once again, for the cheap seats. You do not have to be pals. And often it's a better living situation if you aren't.