@Barry2021,
Barry2021 wrote:
Neptune, please do not start this about me being too involved in my granddaughter's life. That bridge has been crossed already.
I agree with this (meaning neptune statement it is not your role)- I understand you probably are trying to be supportive of your daughter, but quite honestly this is between your daughter (the child's mom), the child's father and the child. Now granted the child at this point doesn't know whether her dad is there or not.
You are the grandfather and your job is to keep your mouth shut about this and just be there for your granddaughter and daughter.
Now I understand you are probably trying to just simply discuss should he be here or not - not necessarily voicing your opinion to this - but I am on the fence about it. If a parent really does not believe in this ritual, I can see his point on not attending --- but I really do not think this is the case - he would have voiced this earlier and would maybe even said he was against this. I think he is using this as an excuse not to come. He sounds like an idiot and completely irresponsible parent. And the child is probably better off without him around. And yes, he should attend important moments of his child whether she knows about it or not - but you cannot force him.
I agree if he has any ounce of caring, he will regrets this later. The best you can do is stand in and be a good role model for your grandchild and give her the love she deserves - not to bash her dad (even if he is a complete idiot).