Mon 9 Aug, 2021 07:54 am
This past Sat my wife and I were eating lunch at a restaurant and she told mew something that completely floored me. She told me that my sister-in-law, her sister, was involved with a married man. That wasn't the shocking part to me. She then told me that she flew to Miami with him and his wife and they had a threesome in their hotel room. She said that was the purpose of the trip, to do a threesome. Long story short, my SIL and the married guy are still hooking up on the side. When I asked my wife about the threesome she said she didn't ask any questions because she didn't want to know any of the details. Maybe it's just me but if someone were to drop that kind of news on me I would have had a million questions to ask. Not that I want to know about my SIL's sexual escapades but I still would have asked questions. Let one of my family members tell me they had a threesome with a married couple, you think the first thing out of my mouth would have been, "oh, that's nice but I don't want any details"? I'm sure my wife has a few details other than what she told me but if you're going to tell me the ending of a story at least tell me the lead up to it.
Would you not have asked questions?
Obviously, she thought the whole idea was so disgusting she didn’t want to know any of the details.
The real question is : why would YOU
want to know all the details?
Not that I want to know but if you're going to tell somebody that info then have some details because there will be questions. If someone told you they were in a 5 car pile up accident is the next statement out of your mouth going to be, "wow, are you okay? Where are we eating for lunch?" I'd want to know how the accident happen, who was at fault, did anyone get hurt, etc. My SIL has always been a prude with it comes to things like that so it shocked me when she told me. Again, I don't want intimate details but I do want some details.
It sounds like your wife already got all the pertinent information. Outside of the more intimate details, what more is there? Your wife likely does not want to be in a position of being "in the know" with other family members and perhaps doesn't want to express enthusiasm to her sister who may have been looking for affirmation.
agreed with engineer - she likely wants no part of this, likely she loves her sister but not her sister's actions thus does not want any other information on this.
People are different and they react differently - you on the other hand probably are the type that likes/desires/wants to have additional information. Other people do not feel the same way - doesn't mean one is wrong or right just different in how one handles things