@Linkat,
Quote:Not sure if I am looking for advice or venting or both...
Yes, both might be useful.
I've heard of accounts like this with depressing frequency. We talk about the cultural divide in the country but when it "hits home" you no longer have the comfort of abstraction — or putting people on "ignore" the way we can on A2K.
I don't know how or when it started — there have always been fractious sentiments in the US, urban/rural being one of the oldest — but it's only been recently that this seething, but subterranean, divisiveness has really been cultivated, brought to the surface, and cynically exploited by politicians, aided by social media. Although it didn't start with Reagan I think he really made distrust of government respectable — and he did, after all, do away with the "Fairness Doctrine".
I think your daughter's tactic of limiting the extent of her response is probably the safest tactic. But from what I've read, concerned non-critical questioning can sometimes help a bit. "Where did you hear this? How certain are you of this claim? What have you seen that confirms this?" But in many cases it may be easier to simply build a wall — a semi-permeable one.