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Wed 14 Jul, 2021 03:39 pm
Me and my wife met at '6th form' and have been together and Married for over 20 years, with 3 wonderful not so young children. Childhood sweethearts some would say. However, there has been an underlying issue for me, i was a virgin, she wasn't... I realise she is hardly experienced, but i am nearly 40 and are looking at being only sexually active with only my wife for the rest of my days...we have a great sex life and we try and keep it interesting and have been 100% faithful throughout, but thoughts of 'what must it be like' are becoming more and more frequent... In summary, im not jealous of her past, as sexually shes hardly had one herself!, but I am growing more and more curious about sex with others. Advice please!
@Dan18oy,
This happened two decades ago. The Statute of Limitations has run on giving a damn about who was a virgin when.
You're clutching at this as an excuse for future bad behavior.
@Dan18oy,
There are two unrelated issues here.
1) You were a virgin 20 years ago.
2) After 20 years of marriage, you want to have sex with other people.
Stop pretending that these two things have anything to do with each other. There are lots of couples who go through this after decades of marriage; where one partner wants to sleep with other people.
@Dan18oy,
Can you talk openly with your wife about wanting to have sex with other people? I strongly suggest you say just this without dragging up something that happened 20 years ago?
Could you accept if your wife also had sex with other men (in the present)?
Some couples have open marriages where each person can have sex with other people. If want something one-sided, that sounds deeply unfair.
Dan
Is some other woman catching your eye?
If not pay, some attention to your marriage and try to spice up your love life in the bedroom.
When is the last time you took her away for a romantic weekend? Redo your bedroom. Buy her some sexy lingerie. Bring her flowers and candy for no reason.
If you are looking for spice, it’s right in front of you.
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