@Snowed,
Why can’t we? At this point if this was the situation – it is reasonable to assume he would have mentioned it and defended himself on this point especially since we suggested he SPEAK with his wife on this. Never did he mention before or even after we suggested he SPEAK with his wife – that he actually did speak with her.
He has stated he is unwilling to bend. Pretty clear he never had a conversation with his wife.
I don’t know but if someone gave this suggestion to me I would have said – sorry just to clarify we already agreed my granddaughter would stay and now she doesn’t want her to – kind of a big thing to leave out initially and not to mention after several people suggested he do so any reasonably intelligent person would have stated that his wife reneged. So yes we can make this assumption.
And you are making assumptions – we suggested talking with his wife = not necessarily having the baby stay over less; yes that might be the end result, but again being married is a partnership so both should have equal say – that is why you reach a compromise or at least you do so if you care about your partner.
So you are suggesting that the wife be miserable and bend 100% so the husband can be happy. Well I am going to your post and let you know that you should just let your husband do whatever he wants with the money and not make any changes to make you happier.