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How to lose virginity after 30?

 
 
Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 02:35 am
I'm a male in his early 30's who's never had any dating success or sex, not for lack of trying. I'm socially awkward, painfully shy and introverted and have poor conversational skills but I'm kind, fairly intelligent and keep good hygiene. As far as I know the only way to get a sexual/romantic partner is through dating and dating sites. These have only ever resulted in rejection and getting ghosted. It's both destroying my sense of self worth and making me believe I'll just be a sexually frustrated loser for the rest of my life. Please help me
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longjon
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 03:34 am
Sex isn't a big deal. It's probably the most over rated thing in human history.

BTW, if you have $200 to your name, you are not an "incel". Brothels are legal in Nevada.

Instead of basing your self worth on someone else, why not just be awesome and live life for yourself.
Muad-dib
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 03:57 am
@longjon,
People who have it seem to think its a pretty big deal. And I have the same sexual desires and urges as anyone else, just compounded by unbearable frustration from unfulfillment. I’m nowhere near Nevada and don’t have the time or money to go there. Anyway besides satisfying my curiosity it would possibly make me more depressed since the woman didn’t want to have sex with me but was financially coerced. Trying to live life but the longer I go without any clue how to find a romantic partner the more headspace it takes up. If it was by choice it would be different but its not unfortunately. Thank you for replying btw
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jespah
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 05:11 am
@Muad-dib,
Surely there are Facebook groups dedicated to things that interest you.

Not dating. I mean anime, sports, music, how to make perfect French toast, whatever interests you.

There are probably women in those groups. Start chatting with them. Not about dating, but about your mutual interests. This is how you practice.

Then go back to those dating sites. Lead with your interests, not with how much you want to have sex. Be patient! Men have a much harder time on dating sites than women do.

It may take a while. but you will eventually find someone who enjoys hot dogs with bacon (or whatever interests you) as much as you do.

Be flexible on things like time and location, and looks. Skinny young blondes get a lot of messages and offers. Overweight gingers over the age of 35 do not. You can increase your odds by focusing where there is less competition.

And for God's sake, if you're into a fandom, don't make the woman prove that she is truly into the fandom. "You like Star Wars? Name 3 Mandalorians." <--- Don't do stuff like that.
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hightor
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 05:35 am
@longjon,
Quote:
It's probably the most over rated thing in human history.

Is that the consensus of your ex-lovers?
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Linkat
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 02:34 pm
@longjon,
longjon wrote:

BTW, if you have $200 to your name, you are not an "incel". Brothels are legal in Nevada.


Curious as an aside - are they "open" and allowed to do business during covid?
Linkat
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 02:39 pm
@Linkat,
Outta luck just found this :

"Brothels, adult entertainment establishments, karaoke and day clubs and night clubs will remain closed until at least May 1. "

Funny that karaoke and brothels are in the same category
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BillRM
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 03:35 pm
@Muad-dib,
Lord work on becoming close friends with women an the sex will follow. Now sex with someone who is a friend is far better then having relationships with women only for seeking sex with them.

Women are far more interesting and complex then men are in any case.
Muad-dib
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 05:06 pm
@BillRM,
Thank you for your response and advice my friend
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tsarstepan
 
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Reply Mon 22 Feb, 2021 11:36 pm
@Linkat,
Linkat wrote:

longjon wrote:

BTW, if you have $200 to your name, you are not an "incel". Brothels are legal in Nevada.


Curious as an aside - are they "open" and allowed to do business during covid?

I'm more curious about the super derogatory (and awkwardly poor English phrasing) of the "Sexual Virginity Incel" forum tag the poster gave himself (since now that the only one who can tag their threads is the OP him or herself).
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