Shouldn’t these extremes be enough show not cheating - and I am not -

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BF went through emails years ago - definitely not great but just emails. No such emails since four years ago but I did one time email my ex (3 yrs ago) said I missed him when we were having problems. Did not call or meet my ex.

BF has demanded I do the following in order to let it go and I have over the years:

Get his name tattooed;

Buy him a Rolex;

Take polygraphs (3 total - passed them all - cost 1600 total - I paid he did not reimburse me)

Installed tracking apps;

Bought cameras so he can monitor me at all times;

Stopped talking to all my close friends since most of them were guys and he was not ok with that (all platonic - as shown by the polygraphs)

Gave him passwords to my email, phone, and bank accounts;

Had “his name” ‘a bitch tattooed on my ass

Must always answer his calls/FaceTime immediately even if I’m at work, with my family,

Filed a restraining order against my ex even though all he did was date me before I met my BF;

After all that, he still accuses me of cheating. I’ve never cheated. Any contact with a male he sees as a betrayal. So I have had to resort to using phone apps to contact males who I need to talk to for work. (All innocent and documented).

Is it cheating that I resort to using apps and o contact people for work just so he won’t freak out ?

But, wouldn’t the above be enough for a normal person to stop false cheating accusations??

What else can I do? I’m going crazy bc I’ve never cheated on him or anyone else for that matter.

Need a reality check!

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@IndieJones,

This is controlling behaviour. It’s not natural, you need to get out now, thinggs will only get worse.

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@IndieJones,

You need to go back and read your post as though it was written by some-one else.

Hopefully you'll be able to see how he is controlling and manipulating you.

He's watching and monitoring everything you do, he's isolated you from your friends, accuses you of cheating and expects you to be at his beck and call.

This relationship is unhealthy at best, and potentially dangerous for you.

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@IndieJones,

IndieJones wrote:

Filed a restraining order against my ex even though all he did was date me before I met my BF.

That's the most heinous action ever.

You deserve what you get.

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Has he smacked you around? Because this behavior is consistent with abuse.

No qualifiers. No "Oh, but I deserved it. " bullshit. Has his hand met your body in any sort of violent manner?

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@neptuneblue,

What?

She's in a relationship with a man who is clearly controlling and dominating her. I seriously doubt it was her idea to take out a restraining order against the ex.

How does this one action mean that she deserves what she gets?

And when this all escalates into violence will she deserve that too?

Seriously?

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@jespah,

I think I can answer that by saying I shouldn’t answer that. But, that has not. Even an issue for the last year and a half. It also wasn’t an issue initially

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@IndieJones,

IndieJones wrote:

BF went through emails years ago - definitely not great but just emails. No such emails since four years ago but I did one time email my ex (3 yrs ago) said I missed him when we were having problems. Did not call or meet my ex.

BF has demanded I do the following in order to let it go and I have over the years:

Get his name tattooed;

Buy him a Rolex;

Take polygraphs (3 total - passed them all - cost 1600 total - I paid he did not reimburse me)

Installed tracking apps;

Bought cameras so he can monitor me at all times;

Stopped talking to all my close friends since most of them were guys and he was not ok with that (all platonic - as shown by the polygraphs)

Gave him passwords to my email, phone, and bank accounts;

Had “his name” ‘a bitch tattooed on my ass

Must always answer his calls/FaceTime immediately even if I’m at work, with my family,

Filed a restraining order against my ex even though all he did was date me before I met my BF;

After all that, he still accuses me of cheating. I’ve never cheated. Any contact with a male he sees as a betrayal. So I have had to resort to using phone apps to contact males who I need to talk to for work. (All innocent and documented).

Is it cheating that I resort to using apps and o contact people for work just so he won’t freak out ?

But, wouldn’t the above be enough for a normal person to stop false cheating accusations??

What else can I do? I’m going crazy bc I’ve never cheated on him or anyone else for that matter.

Need a reality check!

DUMP HIM, he's a jerk.

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@cherrie,

I'm not going to make excuses for someone's poor behavior. She may have been a victim at first, but she crossed the line into a willing participant when she ruined an innocent man's life.

Maybe you just don't understand how important a restraining order is, what it does and how it affects all parties involved. If you did, you wouldn't be so apt to be indifferent to a 3rd party's suffering.

OP shows no remorse, doesn't take responsibility for her own actions and filed a fraudulent police report.

Maybe you can ignore that but I certainly won't.

I've always been a woman's advocate. I've fought tooth and nail to advance women's rights and OP's actions are WRONG.

She wanted a wake call - - well, here it is - - she's a master manipulator and a terrible human being.

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@neptuneblue,

I made sure he was not served and requested I drop it. But thanks for the feed back. I wasn’t looking to just hear sympathy.

Interestingly enough, you did not actually address the actual question.

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@neptuneblue,

Also, where did you get anything about a police report. Do you understand how restraining orders work? You referred to me as “OP” indicating to me your an attorney but probably don’t do family law

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@IndieJones,

OP is a term used on A2K to refer to the person who started the thread. That’s all it is.

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@izzythepush,

Yes OP = original poster

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@jespah,

Ahhh... thank you for the clarification- I’ve never been here befor

OP = Opposing party so thanks for clearing up my co fusion

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