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Anniversary of Death

 
 
PUNKEY
 
Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 09:58 am
Today is the 11th anniversary of my husband's death (2 year colon cancer)
It's cold and raining like hell, the sun nowhere seen. I am not out of my PJ's and its almost noon. Weepy today. This is so not like me.

I read an interview years ago of a man 103 years old. He had been thru wars, famine, multiple jobs, health issues, other upheavals in life, etc. When asked what was the hardest thing he ever faced, he replied "The deaths."

Tomorrow's another day and I will be my self again. But for today, it's just this.


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neptuneblue
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 01:03 pm
@PUNKEY,
Thinking of you today. {Internet hug}
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glitterbag
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 01:53 pm
@PUNKEY,
Grief has a way of showing up and reminding us of the hole in our hearts. It hurts.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 02:01 pm
@PUNKEY,
There is absolutely nothing wrong with an occasional pj day, or a day to grieve. Pamper yourself in whatever way feels right for you.

Given these days of isolation, I'll guess more than one person is also self-pampering in pjs.


Take care of yourself.
farmerman
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 03:36 pm
@ehBeth,
I was wearing my torn jeans shorts and a tee shirt that says
"my wife says I dont listen to her, or something like that"
Mrs F and I have a week in mid September when we go around like zombies. Its the anniversary of our daughters missing and murder while she was in Europe on a trip she was planning for a year in advance. She just finished her legal training and after serving as a clerk and taking her bar exams she was going to take an MS specialty in environmental science to aplly to a job working for a pharma. Her life was such a happy tale in all things and then...

Its something that never heals but scars over and leaves our lives less rich forever.

.

Joeblow
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 03:54 pm
@PUNKEY,
I think I'm glad it's raining, Punkey. Pj's all day can be a comfort.
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Joeblow
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 03:58 pm
@farmerman,
Ohhhh Farmerman. It's an unspeakable loss.
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jespah
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 04:12 pm
@PUNKEY,
Totally, 100% understandable. PJs are A+ the right way to go. Treat yourself well.

You, too, farmerman.
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Sturgis
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 04:41 pm
@PUNKEY,
Between your husband's death being fairly recent and the current situation in the country with the Covid-19 crisis and all that it entails, just wanting and needing a day or more where you cry and feel blue is more than understandable.

As the 103 year old man said death is the hardest. Decades later, I still have moments where the anniversary of a passing can overwhelm me. (especially each October which is multiples)

Feel better soon. Until then, we're here for you.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 06:55 pm
Thanks to all for the nurturing words. Once again, I learn that others carry on in spite of unbearable loss more than mine.

I ended up doing some “ retail therapy” today by participating in online art auctions of locals artists’ works.

Regards, Punkey
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edgarblythe
 
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Reply Thu 14 May, 2020 07:21 pm
Dropping in to express sympathy and well wishes.
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bobsal u1553115
 
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Reply Fri 15 May, 2020 05:48 pm
@PUNKEY,
Grieving is so personal. And you've seemed to turn it into a meditation. I appreciate your strength in that.
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bobsal u1553115
 
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Reply Fri 15 May, 2020 05:52 pm
@farmerman,
I cannot even imagine dealing with that. I am so moved that you can keep it under control and use it to grieve, but not let it take control. I am so sorry for your loss.
farmerman
 
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Reply Fri 15 May, 2020 07:01 pm
@bobsal u1553115,
thank you
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