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Reply Tue 28 Apr, 2020 10:35 am
So here is my story. Would like to hear thoughts after please.

About 4 years ago I met the women I'm with now. She has a shady past of sleeping with alot of guys just because. That's what she told me. I'm not one to judge though.we clicked just right. So I decided to give it a go even though what she told me and I've been cheated on throughout all my relationships. Well, around 3 years now she started talking to this guy she knew through texting. I was okay with that. But then it started becoming more and more. From the time she woke up till the time we went to bed. Laughing and giggling right beside me. I caught part of a mesaage saying something about her faking something. But then when I went to see the messages they were all gone. Everyday they would be gone after talking to him. So from learning to look for signs from my past. I brought it up. And seemed like she came up with excuses as to why her messages disappeared. She had told me once that she has alot of guy friends as well. I asked her if she had anyone on her facebook, snapchat or instagram that she has just randomly slept with. She told me no. Anyways. I ended up pulling away from her. For a long time. Well the girl I'm with is a bit open minded and into some things she was trying to get me to be into. Which was fine. I'm open to almost anything. We had created a private instagram just for the 2 of us. Well 2 and half years later or so. I find some dude she knows on it that is also on her facebook. So I questioned it. She said she didnt even realize he was. But as far as I knew, if its private, you have to invite someone to it, and accept them. And what you ha e to understand is that she is very thorough. And pays close attention to detail. I asked how she met him. She tells me they only met once, and have been chatting ever since and friends. But when asked to delete him cause I didnt feel comfortable she lost it. Anyways, needless to say that didnt get solved. Then sometime later. Because I pulled away from her. She did the same and because emotionally detached from me. Then throughout the hole month of march, her and this guy she had on facebook were trading emotional post back and forth like 6 , 7 times a day and commenting on all of them. Now were we live is a complex. And we have been living here for 3 and half years. This guy drives a older red dodge pickup that is similar to my neighbours truck. Except this guys truck is raised. Well I've never seen his truck here before. And it just so happens to be in my parking lot one day when I came home from work to get something. When I entered the house, she was acting kinda shady so I had a gut feeling something was wrong. So I checked the rooms except for one. Then 2 days later she shows me a post this guy took after midnight one night saying he found a truck just like his. In it was my truck, his truck and my neighbours. She had commented on saying oh is that your truck, that's ours too. And another car. Well the posting continued between them. So I looked into this photo a bit more and I see what looks like her reflections in the doors and such. And something I didnt mention. Is that I have third stage copd, and mild sleep apena so I sleep like a rock and hear almost nothing. She also dont like the cold weather but one of the reflections looks like her in a tank top. Then she found out I was looking into it. And she finally tells me well you may find out I slept with him back in 2012 cause I was going through a rough spot and it was convenient. Well, she had been talking to him through facebook messenger as well. But deleting certain parts of the convos. Also she like adrenlene rushes. I feel like she brought this guy in our house to sleep with him well I was sleeping. Any thoughts towards this would be great. Thank you
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jespah
 
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Reply Tue 28 Apr, 2020 11:40 am
She's already lying to you.

How many signs do you need?
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CoastalRat
 
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Reply Tue 28 Apr, 2020 12:28 pm
@Frankd78,
We have no way of knowing if she is cheating or not. The only thing that matters here is that you no longer trust her. You are looking at everything that appears to be suspicious to you with an eye toward discovering that she is cheating on you.

I've written this before and will probably write it again. If there is no trust between partners, the relationship is doomed.

But to put this another way, let me ask you a question. Is this how you want to live your life, constantly looking for any sign that she is cheating on you? How can you be truly happy living that way? Why would you want to live that way? (I know, that was three questions, not one.)
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Frankd78
 
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Reply Tue 28 Apr, 2020 12:35 pm
Tha k you for your replies. I just wanted to tell my story and find out how many ppl would find this suspissious and how many wouldnt. If I was over reacting or not ? I know though that with no trust its doomed. I have been in and out of relationships with a cheating spouse before and was hoping it was different this time around. I do love this women hard. Thats why it's so tough for me. Really all I wanted is her to admit it. And we could of figured out why it happened and see if we could of avoided it happening again. I'm just tired of in and out of relationships. Im having trouble with making the decission I need to make. Some ppl are telling me I'm over rea ting to this.
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Mamae
 
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Reply Tue 28 Apr, 2020 04:59 pm
@Frankd78,
A crystal clear cheater. You have been cheated on a lot of times already, you should know by now how cheaters cheat. You deserve better which is why I think you should end things with her and save yourself from pain this relationship might inflict. But it is of course still up to you. I wish you get to decide the best for yourself.
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PUNKEY
 
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Reply Wed 29 Apr, 2020 07:59 am
Frank - what are your ages ?
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