I'm always to blame...

Currently married, but going through tough times. My husband doesn't discuss things with me because he said I always disagree or turn my nose up to things. He has bought a motorcycle without talking to me about it, started a side lawn business without discussing it n just last week got a house to flip without talking to me. On top of it all he is texting multiple women that I just found out about. He said he just needs someone to talk to. I asked what am i??? That's where he says I dont listen n shoot down his ideas. I asked him to leave last week n hes staying at that house which is virtually run down. We are starting counseling this week but would love some others advice that may have experienced anything similar.