@uncertainty77,
So?
Your daughter is still the one who decides on the guest list.
And, since I'm here, seriously, you get caught up in your new romances and overstuff your life with them -- and then get upset when no one else wants to overstuff their life with the guy you're dating.
Of course your religious holiday dinner is your own choice because you get to make the guest list. That's kinda how it goes. You're the host, and/or you're footing the bill, you get to make the guest list.
And it's nice to not be pushy about such things, particularly as your daughter has made it clear she doesn't like the guy you're dating.
Let. It. Go.