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Long-distance friend communication advice

 
 
Reply Mon 17 Feb, 2020 02:38 pm
Hey all! I have had this long-distance friend off and on for nearly 8 years. Well, we have always communicated via Skype and facebook messages. About 6-12 months ago, I informed my friend that I didn't like Skype or something similar so we haven't skyped since. Well, now she just sent me a message and says her story is too long to type so she'll tell me in skype. Ummm I HATE skyping but I value our friendship. How do I tell her that I don't want to skype without offending her or sounding disinterested? I don't skype with anyone else! Thank you SO much for your help!
 
roger
 
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Reply Mon 17 Feb, 2020 03:16 pm
@wuwuchick28,
I think it's time to make an exception. She has respected your wishes and this is obviously a special case, at least to her.

Just my opinion.
Sturgis
 
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Reply Mon 17 Feb, 2020 03:33 pm
@roger,
I agree with roger on this.
wuwuchick28
 
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Reply Mon 17 Feb, 2020 03:42 pm
@Sturgis,
Hmmm. What if I decide not to? I respected her wishes longer than she respected mine. I skyped with her for years and didn't want to but I didn't admit I didn't like skype so she probably figures it's no big deal...
Sturgis
 
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Reply Mon 17 Feb, 2020 03:49 pm
@wuwuchick28,
Okay. I understand that you are not good or happy using Skype. This seems like a possible once only situation where they have a lot to say. Give it a try. Make an exception. If it turns out they really are just being lazy and not wanting to type, let them know.

You can always stop the Skype any time you want. Just give them a few minutes warning.
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ehBeth
 
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Reply Mon 17 Feb, 2020 03:55 pm
@wuwuchick28,
You don't like to Skype. Fine. Ask for her phone number and call her.

Talk to her.
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Linkat
 
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Reply Tue 18 Feb, 2020 06:16 am
@Sturgis,
agreed with all the above -

What is your issue with skype? Personally I don't really use it - unless my kids pull it up. But if someone wanted to talk with me via skype even if I did not like it - if it seemed important my dislike of the program would not be as important as a friend that needs to talk.
tsarstepan
 
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Reply Tue 18 Feb, 2020 09:50 am
@wuwuchick28,
wuwuchick28 wrote:

Hmmm. What if I decide not to? I respected her wishes longer than she respected mine. I skyped with her for years and didn't want to but I didn't admit I didn't like skype so she probably figures it's no big deal...

What a sad way to kill a seemingly good friendship because you hold a minor dislike (or worse … an irrational hate) for the universal method of communication.

Have you suggested to her an alternative method of communications? Something that would satisfy both parties?
wuwuchick28
 
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Reply Tue 18 Feb, 2020 05:21 pm
@tsarstepan,
She lives in Europe. I live in the US. I prefer facebook messenger. She has not complained once about using facebook messenger. I am very uncomfortable using skype/phones to talk unless at work and even then it is undesirable.
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wuwuchick28
 
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Reply Tue 18 Feb, 2020 05:25 pm
@Linkat,
I am uncomfortable using certain technology including Skype. Honestly, I don't reveal much to her as a friend because we can't ever meet up. She removed me from facebook years ago when I told her I didn't trust her anymore; then years later when I was on a mental medication, I added her back on facebook and we started messaging/skyping but now I don't know where it will go. I still feel like she doesn't open up much to me lol. Now she claims she will in skype and I'm not sure it's what we both want....
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ivana16
 
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Reply Sun 31 May, 2020 10:51 am
@wuwuchick28,
Respect its friendship ,but you need also to respect yourself,maybe you could propose her to use skype for three months and to not use skype for the other 3 months?Smile
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